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<blockquote data-quote="helpangel" data-source="post: 620848" data-attributes="member: 7170"><p>My X had me numb several times during what my son refers to as my walking breakdown years. It came down to the fact I could not accept that he was gone. I was use to being able to fix things, as a coward had only jumped into fights I could win. The more I tried to get him back the further away he went. </p><p></p><p>When no amount of begging, badgering, threatening, acting like could care less, replacing him, or anything else was successful in getting him to step up to responsibility of his children I was numb. I'm grateful my son when I was too far gone to feed them made sure the girls got food, he would force stuff at me too as I was often too depressed to eat.</p><p></p><p>God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.</p><p></p><p>Powerful words and very true. The only advise I can give is be kind to yourself and the people around you; they are hurting too but probably focusing on you and not their own healing. My X found other women stupid enough to have his offspring, but your son only has one mom and even if he wanted to he can not replace you.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p><p></p><p>PS remember what I said about the more I tried to pull him back the further away he got? I would recommend keeping attempts at contact to a minimum and never at his workplace... It was cute me going into restaurant my son works at referring to my 6ft 300 Lb son as my "baby boy" until the day my distraction caused one of his co workers to almost cut his thumb off, haven't been back since.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="helpangel, post: 620848, member: 7170"] My X had me numb several times during what my son refers to as my walking breakdown years. It came down to the fact I could not accept that he was gone. I was use to being able to fix things, as a coward had only jumped into fights I could win. The more I tried to get him back the further away he went. When no amount of begging, badgering, threatening, acting like could care less, replacing him, or anything else was successful in getting him to step up to responsibility of his children I was numb. I'm grateful my son when I was too far gone to feed them made sure the girls got food, he would force stuff at me too as I was often too depressed to eat. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Powerful words and very true. The only advise I can give is be kind to yourself and the people around you; they are hurting too but probably focusing on you and not their own healing. My X found other women stupid enough to have his offspring, but your son only has one mom and even if he wanted to he can not replace you. Nancy PS remember what I said about the more I tried to pull him back the further away he got? I would recommend keeping attempts at contact to a minimum and never at his workplace... It was cute me going into restaurant my son works at referring to my 6ft 300 Lb son as my "baby boy" until the day my distraction caused one of his co workers to almost cut his thumb off, haven't been back since. [/QUOTE]
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