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Wondering... Why did he steal from friends?
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 538800"><p>I work in retail. We have items stolen constantly. It is an INFURIATING cost of doing business and many police departments are not interested in helping. Unfortunately, the cash nature of our business also means we have been the victim of petty "cashier" money theft as well as higher scale embezzlement. Every retailer I know has experienced it. It's never publicized for fear of attracting thieves! And often, restitution plans are made in lieu of judgment and the few cases we have prosecuted successfully have resulted in slaps on the wrists. So, we go to dozens of loss prevention workshops, work with private detective agencies, the DEA, the Secret Service (they are in charge of forgery) and security companies to try to keep it manageable. This is what I have learned:</p><p></p><p>Stealing is most often a crime of opportunity. People steal because they can. Sometimes a good person becomes a thief when opportunity meets desperation but it's usually about opportunity. When they are successful, it emboldens them. They offset this by justifying the theft on the backs of their victims. "he's a jerk"; "she owes me"; "prices have gone up too high"; "I'm a good customer"; etc. When they don't get caught, they get bolder. To the point of actually stealing so much that they DO get caught. Many people think they "were looking to get caught" and that's doubtful. It's usually bc they have been so bold; stolen so much and been successful that think they CAN'T get caught. When we catch an inside thief who has been stealing, the interrogation (by professionals) usually only reveals a very remorseful 60-80% of what they have actually stolen. It's a known "margin of error"; often because the amount is tied up to the persons self esteem. I have literally been brought to my knees by the amounts of money people I liked and trusted (and considered a friend) have stolen. </p><p></p><p>My guess is your son steals from his teammates bc he CAN and because he wants money. He justifies it (to his self esteem) based on the difficult relationships he has with them. </p><p></p><p>Just in my opinion</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 538800"] I work in retail. We have items stolen constantly. It is an INFURIATING cost of doing business and many police departments are not interested in helping. Unfortunately, the cash nature of our business also means we have been the victim of petty "cashier" money theft as well as higher scale embezzlement. Every retailer I know has experienced it. It's never publicized for fear of attracting thieves! And often, restitution plans are made in lieu of judgment and the few cases we have prosecuted successfully have resulted in slaps on the wrists. So, we go to dozens of loss prevention workshops, work with private detective agencies, the DEA, the Secret Service (they are in charge of forgery) and security companies to try to keep it manageable. This is what I have learned: Stealing is most often a crime of opportunity. People steal because they can. Sometimes a good person becomes a thief when opportunity meets desperation but it's usually about opportunity. When they are successful, it emboldens them. They offset this by justifying the theft on the backs of their victims. "he's a jerk"; "she owes me"; "prices have gone up too high"; "I'm a good customer"; etc. When they don't get caught, they get bolder. To the point of actually stealing so much that they DO get caught. Many people think they "were looking to get caught" and that's doubtful. It's usually bc they have been so bold; stolen so much and been successful that think they CAN'T get caught. When we catch an inside thief who has been stealing, the interrogation (by professionals) usually only reveals a very remorseful 60-80% of what they have actually stolen. It's a known "margin of error"; often because the amount is tied up to the persons self esteem. I have literally been brought to my knees by the amounts of money people I liked and trusted (and considered a friend) have stolen. My guess is your son steals from his teammates bc he CAN and because he wants money. He justifies it (to his self esteem) based on the difficult relationships he has with them. Just in my opinion [/QUOTE]
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