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Wondering... Why did he steal from friends?
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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 538810" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Thank you for information Signorina!</p><p></p><p>Do you have information about how permanent habit stealing tends to be? Once a thief, always a thief? Or do people learn from getting caught and stop?</p><p></p><p>What I know, my difficult child has been stealing in two separate periods. First when he was 13-15 he shoplifted to appease bullies and to try to bought their friendship. That ended, when these kids didn't demand difficult child to steal any more. He didn't get caught ever, but confessed this one recently. The second period, from which he did get caught, was this stealing from team mates and from home. That happened over period of a few months and ended year and a half ago, when he was caught. That was to finance his compulsive gambling. To my knowledge he hasn't been stealing after that (certainly not from team mates or at home, but about shoplifting I of course can not be sure about.)</p><p></p><p>And as you can probably guess, it is something I also worry about. Did he steal only because he 'needed' money or does he do it for the spite or some other reason? I really can't know. He is mostly truly remorseful, not only because getting caught and all the trouble it has caused to him, but also for hurting others. I have to say, that I do like the fact, that he still has to meet and be together with some of his victims in certain sports situations, even play in same national junior teams or be in same development programs. Not getting away from the situation easy and having to meet these people again and again is probably good for him. There has been times he has tried to justify his actions with others being jerks to him, but mostly he has been able to take responsibility and some of the boys have even forgiven him at least partly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 538810, member: 14557"] Thank you for information Signorina! Do you have information about how permanent habit stealing tends to be? Once a thief, always a thief? Or do people learn from getting caught and stop? What I know, my difficult child has been stealing in two separate periods. First when he was 13-15 he shoplifted to appease bullies and to try to bought their friendship. That ended, when these kids didn't demand difficult child to steal any more. He didn't get caught ever, but confessed this one recently. The second period, from which he did get caught, was this stealing from team mates and from home. That happened over period of a few months and ended year and a half ago, when he was caught. That was to finance his compulsive gambling. To my knowledge he hasn't been stealing after that (certainly not from team mates or at home, but about shoplifting I of course can not be sure about.) And as you can probably guess, it is something I also worry about. Did he steal only because he 'needed' money or does he do it for the spite or some other reason? I really can't know. He is mostly truly remorseful, not only because getting caught and all the trouble it has caused to him, but also for hurting others. I have to say, that I do like the fact, that he still has to meet and be together with some of his victims in certain sports situations, even play in same national junior teams or be in same development programs. Not getting away from the situation easy and having to meet these people again and again is probably good for him. There has been times he has tried to justify his actions with others being jerks to him, but mostly he has been able to take responsibility and some of the boys have even forgiven him at least partly. [/QUOTE]
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