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<blockquote data-quote="GoingNorth" data-source="post: 673596" data-attributes="member: 1963"><p>(((leafy)))</p><p></p><p>I'm comparing what I went through with my husband to what you are going through with your children, as I don't have children.</p><p></p><p>The thing about addictions is that they start out as choices. One has to choose to try the drug, then choose to continue using it at a rate and level until the addiction develops.</p><p></p><p>Most addicts are actually surprised to discover they're hooked, as many of them figure they can control use of their drug of choice, and that "it" won't happen to them.</p><p></p><p>Once an addiction has fully developed, it isn't a matter of getting high anymore. It's a matter of not being dopesick. </p><p></p><p>To get off the doctor, the addict has to be willing to go through withdrawal (by the way, if your D.C. is using benzos like Xanax or Klonopin, or has a heavy alcohol habit, they MUST have medical supervision to withdraw. Withdrawal from these substances can be LETHAL without medical intervention)</p><p></p><p>Then, once the addict has gone through initial withdrawal, there is often a period of horrible depression, and in the case of some drugs, other MH or physical sx.</p><p></p><p>Along with all that, the addict must change their way of thinking and BEING.</p><p></p><p>It's very hard for an addict to come off of drugs. That's why so many go on maintenance therapy, which enables them to maintain the addiction, yet live decent lives in society.</p><p></p><p>Be aware that suboxone can be abused.</p><p></p><p>I've known a LOT of addicts over the years; mostly opioids, and they are real people with real feelings. Most of them loathe themselves, and all of them I've known wish they'd never tried their doctor. NONE of them would encourage a neophyte to try drugs.</p><p></p><p>Try to remember that your addicted son or daughter is still a person. the addiction has changed them, and they will do anything not to be "sick".</p><p></p><p>Also know that even if they get clean, they won't be the son or daughter you knew or loved before they became addicts. There's a whole realm of experience there that you can't comprehend and that experience has changed them.</p><p></p><p>There's also a whole horrible load of guilt that the recovered addict bears that you can't comprehend.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, the addiction turns them into thieves, into prostitutes, into whatever they need to be in order to cop the next fix.</p><p></p><p>Therefore, the addiction puts you, the mother or father, sister or brother, in danger.</p><p></p><p>You have to make the decision to remove yourself from the equation, and that's damned difficult to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="GoingNorth, post: 673596, member: 1963"] (((leafy))) I'm comparing what I went through with my husband to what you are going through with your children, as I don't have children. The thing about addictions is that they start out as choices. One has to choose to try the drug, then choose to continue using it at a rate and level until the addiction develops. Most addicts are actually surprised to discover they're hooked, as many of them figure they can control use of their drug of choice, and that "it" won't happen to them. Once an addiction has fully developed, it isn't a matter of getting high anymore. It's a matter of not being dopesick. To get off the doctor, the addict has to be willing to go through withdrawal (by the way, if your D.C. is using benzos like Xanax or Klonopin, or has a heavy alcohol habit, they MUST have medical supervision to withdraw. Withdrawal from these substances can be LETHAL without medical intervention) Then, once the addict has gone through initial withdrawal, there is often a period of horrible depression, and in the case of some drugs, other MH or physical sx. Along with all that, the addict must change their way of thinking and BEING. It's very hard for an addict to come off of drugs. That's why so many go on maintenance therapy, which enables them to maintain the addiction, yet live decent lives in society. Be aware that suboxone can be abused. I've known a LOT of addicts over the years; mostly opioids, and they are real people with real feelings. Most of them loathe themselves, and all of them I've known wish they'd never tried their doctor. NONE of them would encourage a neophyte to try drugs. Try to remember that your addicted son or daughter is still a person. the addiction has changed them, and they will do anything not to be "sick". Also know that even if they get clean, they won't be the son or daughter you knew or loved before they became addicts. There's a whole realm of experience there that you can't comprehend and that experience has changed them. There's also a whole horrible load of guilt that the recovered addict bears that you can't comprehend. Unfortunately, the addiction turns them into thieves, into prostitutes, into whatever they need to be in order to cop the next fix. Therefore, the addiction puts you, the mother or father, sister or brother, in danger. You have to make the decision to remove yourself from the equation, and that's damned difficult to do. [/QUOTE]
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