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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 758856" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Dear Lovebeingamom</p><p></p><p>Welcome!</p><p>This is the hard part, but it is the truth. Your daughter is an adult. But she's your child. This is the reality that all of us have to negotiate.</p><p></p><p>I made the mistake of staying too involved for too long. I believed it was my role and responsibility to guide my son towards health, responsibility and purpose. I was wrong. This is his work. It's the work of his life.</p><p></p><p>And the work of my life is to let him. And to learn to tolerate the feelings that come up for me, as I let go. Learning to love from a distance, when there is not control has been hard for me. But I have come to the sense it's my only legitimate role.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter has strengths and resources. All of us have to come to grips with our own stories, as we make our lives. Most of us as young adults dealt with heartbreak in romance. We learned to be more cautious and to dedicate ourselves to growing ourselves and lives in ways where we had more control. I know that's what I did.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you posted. This site has been a real gift to me and to others. I hope you keep posting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 758856, member: 18958"] Dear Lovebeingamom Welcome! This is the hard part, but it is the truth. Your daughter is an adult. But she's your child. This is the reality that all of us have to negotiate. I made the mistake of staying too involved for too long. I believed it was my role and responsibility to guide my son towards health, responsibility and purpose. I was wrong. This is his work. It's the work of his life. And the work of my life is to let him. And to learn to tolerate the feelings that come up for me, as I let go. Learning to love from a distance, when there is not control has been hard for me. But I have come to the sense it's my only legitimate role. Your daughter has strengths and resources. All of us have to come to grips with our own stories, as we make our lives. Most of us as young adults dealt with heartbreak in romance. We learned to be more cautious and to dedicate ourselves to growing ourselves and lives in ways where we had more control. I know that's what I did. I am glad you posted. This site has been a real gift to me and to others. I hope you keep posting. [/QUOTE]
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