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<blockquote data-quote="JKF" data-source="post: 637592" data-attributes="member: 12470"><p>Hi BW - Your story is somewhat similar to mine. I, too, have a 20 year old difficult child who is homeless. My son has been difficult since birth. He has also spent a decent amount of time in group homes since his teen years. No one has ever been able to reach him. We (and many many others) have tried everything to help him and nothing has ever worked. </p><p></p><p>His bio dad (my long gone ex) is a sociopath serving prison time for armed robbery. My difficult child is exactly like his father. He can be charming and loving at times but he can and will turn in an instant - usually as soon as he stops getting what he wants/needs from a person. He then turns violent and vindictive and all bets are off. </p><p></p><p>After many years of dealing with this, my husband and I will not allow him to live in our home ever again. He has been homeless several times over the last two years since voluntarily leaving the group home he was in. His most recent stint has been since June of this year. This is the longest he's ever been on the streets in one shot. It's truly devastating but I am slowly learning to detach in order to keep my sanity. However, that being said, I do worry about my son often and he's always right there in the back of my mind. Tonight we are having terrible thunder storms (the house is literally shaking) and a LOT of rain. I keep looking outside - drawn to the window - and am finding myself wondering where he is and if he's dry/safe/warm/ok. My heart aches on nights like this but I know I didn't cause this and I know I can't change it. He's where he is because he doesn't want to do the work he needs to do in order to better his life. He has burned nearly all of his bridges although there are a couple left if he wants the help. He knows what to do and where to go if he truly wants help. It's up to him at this point. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I just wanted to welcome you and let you know I understand your situation and how you're feeling. Sending bigs hugs and lots of strength your way. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JKF, post: 637592, member: 12470"] Hi BW - Your story is somewhat similar to mine. I, too, have a 20 year old difficult child who is homeless. My son has been difficult since birth. He has also spent a decent amount of time in group homes since his teen years. No one has ever been able to reach him. We (and many many others) have tried everything to help him and nothing has ever worked. His bio dad (my long gone ex) is a sociopath serving prison time for armed robbery. My difficult child is exactly like his father. He can be charming and loving at times but he can and will turn in an instant - usually as soon as he stops getting what he wants/needs from a person. He then turns violent and vindictive and all bets are off. After many years of dealing with this, my husband and I will not allow him to live in our home ever again. He has been homeless several times over the last two years since voluntarily leaving the group home he was in. His most recent stint has been since June of this year. This is the longest he's ever been on the streets in one shot. It's truly devastating but I am slowly learning to detach in order to keep my sanity. However, that being said, I do worry about my son often and he's always right there in the back of my mind. Tonight we are having terrible thunder storms (the house is literally shaking) and a LOT of rain. I keep looking outside - drawn to the window - and am finding myself wondering where he is and if he's dry/safe/warm/ok. My heart aches on nights like this but I know I didn't cause this and I know I can't change it. He's where he is because he doesn't want to do the work he needs to do in order to better his life. He has burned nearly all of his bridges although there are a couple left if he wants the help. He knows what to do and where to go if he truly wants help. It's up to him at this point. Anyway, I just wanted to welcome you and let you know I understand your situation and how you're feeling. Sending bigs hugs and lots of strength your way. Sent using ConductDisorders mobile app [/QUOTE]
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