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Worrisome behavior from my 12 year old brother
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 694380" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I read most of your post and only scanned the others for lack of time, but I think what I am writing is consistent with the rest of the replies: I cannot envision any parent or family member equipped to handle behaviors that your brother is exhibiting which are extremely concerning.</p><p></p><p>He should not be around any of you, let alone the baby. I would fear for your mother, if she attempts to live alone with him. If it were me, I would advise authorities, and advocate that he be placed in residential treatment immediately. That is his only chance. The behaviors he is engaging in can be markers for many psychiatric illnesses and his behavior if unchecked could become more violent and extreme.</p><p></p><p>I would protect both your child and your husband and marriage. What marriage over time could survive the events and the stress that both of you together are experiencing. I understand why you have borne it so far. But your husband? That he does it for love of you and his child does not make it right and correct that he suffer this kind of repugnant and offensive behavior <em>in his own home.</em></p><p><em></em></p><p>I believe that the prognosis and the protection for your brother is not your responsibility. It is your mother's and the governmental institutions that may be responsible to find answers for him and to contain him, so he does not hurt other people. Where is your mother in all this?</p><p></p><p>It sounds to me like you have taken on responsibility that is rightfully hers, and that either her ability to take responsibility or willingness to do so may be impaired.</p><p></p><p>You are at risk, too. If any authority were to learn that your baby is living in this kind of environment, subject to this potential danger--your baby could be removed from your care. Is there really any assurance that your baby, will not be next to be subjected to his sexual experimentation or his cruelty? How much does a baby differ from a little animal to somebody who is indifferent to their feelings or welfare and may have an axe to grind, either towards the baby or the parents? I would not assume that I am safe, nor would I assume my baby was safe.</p><p></p><p>It is not a question of if and how your brother is damaged--it is a question of how fast you can act to remove him from the environment of an innocent for whom you are responsible and who you love with all your heart.</p><p></p><p>I am glad you reached out to us. I hope I am wrong and that I have overreacted. I fear I have not.</p><p></p><p>I hope you keep posting. All of us have endured some form of what you are facing. We want to support you. Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 694380, member: 18958"] I read most of your post and only scanned the others for lack of time, but I think what I am writing is consistent with the rest of the replies: I cannot envision any parent or family member equipped to handle behaviors that your brother is exhibiting which are extremely concerning. He should not be around any of you, let alone the baby. I would fear for your mother, if she attempts to live alone with him. If it were me, I would advise authorities, and advocate that he be placed in residential treatment immediately. That is his only chance. The behaviors he is engaging in can be markers for many psychiatric illnesses and his behavior if unchecked could become more violent and extreme. I would protect both your child and your husband and marriage. What marriage over time could survive the events and the stress that both of you together are experiencing. I understand why you have borne it so far. But your husband? That he does it for love of you and his child does not make it right and correct that he suffer this kind of repugnant and offensive behavior [I]in his own home. [/I] I believe that the prognosis and the protection for your brother is not your responsibility. It is your mother's and the governmental institutions that may be responsible to find answers for him and to contain him, so he does not hurt other people. Where is your mother in all this? It sounds to me like you have taken on responsibility that is rightfully hers, and that either her ability to take responsibility or willingness to do so may be impaired. You are at risk, too. If any authority were to learn that your baby is living in this kind of environment, subject to this potential danger--your baby could be removed from your care. Is there really any assurance that your baby, will not be next to be subjected to his sexual experimentation or his cruelty? How much does a baby differ from a little animal to somebody who is indifferent to their feelings or welfare and may have an axe to grind, either towards the baby or the parents? I would not assume that I am safe, nor would I assume my baby was safe. It is not a question of if and how your brother is damaged--it is a question of how fast you can act to remove him from the environment of an innocent for whom you are responsible and who you love with all your heart. I am glad you reached out to us. I hope I am wrong and that I have overreacted. I fear I have not. I hope you keep posting. All of us have endured some form of what you are facing. We want to support you. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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