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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 704605" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This is just my opinion ion. I did it myself and for me it worked. Remember I also have a son who is very troubled but refused all help.</p><p></p><p>I decided to let go of the outcome of this son for my own sanity</p><p> I can't change him Or make him get help. He is a man now. If he ever has a light bulb moment, he knows where to go. I am not a psychiatrist, you know.</p><p></p><p>My other kids and husband are loving, fun and kind, like your daughter. I chose to focus on making my nice family members the cornerstone of my life. I am at peace with my decision. Letting him abuse me was just enabling him to keep acting badly, and being there for him every day was not encouraging him to TRY to make friends. I can't make him do it, but I don't have to be a proxy male friend to him. Maybe pulling away will change him. Maybe not. They have free will. I know I feel more at peace.</p><p></p><p>I am happy with my life now. This one son isnt happy, but it's partly due to his self made isolation and his unwillingness to commit to serious therapy. It's up to him.</p><p> It's up to your son too. You bought him a house and he wont live in it. That's crazy. Let go of his choices. That helps us and we can only help us, not them.</p><p></p><p>Enjoy your thriving loved ones and yourself and remember you have done all you can for 27 Son. There is nothing else you can do.</p><p>Lots of hugs and love.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 704605, member: 1550"] This is just my opinion ion. I did it myself and for me it worked. Remember I also have a son who is very troubled but refused all help. I decided to let go of the outcome of this son for my own sanity I can't change him Or make him get help. He is a man now. If he ever has a light bulb moment, he knows where to go. I am not a psychiatrist, you know. My other kids and husband are loving, fun and kind, like your daughter. I chose to focus on making my nice family members the cornerstone of my life. I am at peace with my decision. Letting him abuse me was just enabling him to keep acting badly, and being there for him every day was not encouraging him to TRY to make friends. I can't make him do it, but I don't have to be a proxy male friend to him. Maybe pulling away will change him. Maybe not. They have free will. I know I feel more at peace. I am happy with my life now. This one son isnt happy, but it's partly due to his self made isolation and his unwillingness to commit to serious therapy. It's up to him. It's up to your son too. You bought him a house and he wont live in it. That's crazy. Let go of his choices. That helps us and we can only help us, not them. Enjoy your thriving loved ones and yourself and remember you have done all you can for 27 Son. There is nothing else you can do. Lots of hugs and love. [/QUOTE]
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