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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 732453" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>My grands are with their paternal grandparents. My daughter is M.I.A., this August will make one year since she disappeared after I would not support her dramatic plea to grab her kids and their stuff from the grandparents, and she would "go to a shelter". That was hard, but I realized that she was unstable and the kids had enough of moving around going from place to place, while their bio parents tried to "figure life out". The kids were cash cows for the EBT. </p><p>Their Aunty said that no one has turned my daughter in, because they "didn't want anyone to get into trouble." I told her that both parents are already deep in trouble, under the powerful grip of meth and whatever else they are using.</p><p>It is my daughters decision to continue to use the EBT, while the grandparents raise her kids and foot the bill. This meant they went without health insurance for a long time. Only now, have the grandparents begun to set things straight. I can't help but think that if my daughter has to face the consequences for this, what amounts to fraud, maybe, just maybe, she will wake up to her reality. </p><p>I don't think we can, or should, try to shield our adult children from the consequences of their actions. It only prolongs their wrong thinking and doing, makes it infinitely more difficult for everyone around them, especially the grandkids. My grands are to the point where they do not want to talk about their parents. I wish they would get them into counseling, because there has to be emotional repercussions from being abandoned by both parents. </p><p>I have no control over whether they will get counseling. </p><p>So, I continue to pray for all of them. </p><p>I am so sorry HMB for all of your troubles.</p><p>My grands Aunty explained to me that her father went down to the welfare office and explained that they had the kids and are now in the process of getting the help they need. It was not difficult and they did not have to have the bio parents sign off on anything. She wondered if the agency is aware of how hard this is for grandparents and have made the process easier for the kids sake? I don't know how it is in your State, but maybe worth a try? </p><p>I hope you are able to get some rest and "me" time. Super important.</p><p>Much peace to you as you navigate these rough waters.</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 732453, member: 19522"] My grands are with their paternal grandparents. My daughter is M.I.A., this August will make one year since she disappeared after I would not support her dramatic plea to grab her kids and their stuff from the grandparents, and she would "go to a shelter". That was hard, but I realized that she was unstable and the kids had enough of moving around going from place to place, while their bio parents tried to "figure life out". The kids were cash cows for the EBT. Their Aunty said that no one has turned my daughter in, because they "didn't want anyone to get into trouble." I told her that both parents are already deep in trouble, under the powerful grip of meth and whatever else they are using. It is my daughters decision to continue to use the EBT, while the grandparents raise her kids and foot the bill. This meant they went without health insurance for a long time. Only now, have the grandparents begun to set things straight. I can't help but think that if my daughter has to face the consequences for this, what amounts to fraud, maybe, just maybe, she will wake up to her reality. I don't think we can, or should, try to shield our adult children from the consequences of their actions. It only prolongs their wrong thinking and doing, makes it infinitely more difficult for everyone around them, especially the grandkids. My grands are to the point where they do not want to talk about their parents. I wish they would get them into counseling, because there has to be emotional repercussions from being abandoned by both parents. I have no control over whether they will get counseling. So, I continue to pray for all of them. I am so sorry HMB for all of your troubles. My grands Aunty explained to me that her father went down to the welfare office and explained that they had the kids and are now in the process of getting the help they need. It was not difficult and they did not have to have the bio parents sign off on anything. She wondered if the agency is aware of how hard this is for grandparents and have made the process easier for the kids sake? I don't know how it is in your State, but maybe worth a try? I hope you are able to get some rest and "me" time. Super important. Much peace to you as you navigate these rough waters. (((HUGS))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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