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Would Like Some Support - Trying Not to Get Sucked In . . .
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<blockquote data-quote="Blighty" data-source="post: 714324" data-attributes="member: 21991"><p>It seems like your worrying has a negative effect on you and also on him, so obviously that is not a good thing and I know you realise that from what you have written. You are wanting to get out of the worry cycle and are seeking ways to break out of that. That's great.</p><p></p><p>Having said that, as a parent and grandparent, i do not see a problem generally ( other people can give their opinion if they disagree) with giving information. Our role as caring family may be just to give them a nudge if that happens. Whether they chose to do anything about it should not be our concern. We have given them an opportunity.</p><p></p><p>I am thankful for people caring enough to warn me about certain things when I was a young adult. In early 20's we are all still very green about life.</p><p></p><p>If your grandson does not understand how the world works regarding his employment, or getting insurance, then in my opinion it is reasonable to direct him to where he can find resources about it, such as providing a link to a website. It's then up to him to follow through. But if doing even this is likely to cause you anxiety then don't do it. It feels like ( I may be wrong here) that you are suffering more than he is. Maybe put yourself first to give yourself some peace.</p><p></p><p>I think we all have different ideas about what is the right thing to do at times when trying to help. I think it really depends on the two individuals concerned, the difficult situation and where we are on the journey for our own 'recovery' . But at the ned of the day we need to make our own needs for peace a high priority.</p><p></p><p>Just my opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blighty, post: 714324, member: 21991"] It seems like your worrying has a negative effect on you and also on him, so obviously that is not a good thing and I know you realise that from what you have written. You are wanting to get out of the worry cycle and are seeking ways to break out of that. That's great. Having said that, as a parent and grandparent, i do not see a problem generally ( other people can give their opinion if they disagree) with giving information. Our role as caring family may be just to give them a nudge if that happens. Whether they chose to do anything about it should not be our concern. We have given them an opportunity. I am thankful for people caring enough to warn me about certain things when I was a young adult. In early 20's we are all still very green about life. If your grandson does not understand how the world works regarding his employment, or getting insurance, then in my opinion it is reasonable to direct him to where he can find resources about it, such as providing a link to a website. It's then up to him to follow through. But if doing even this is likely to cause you anxiety then don't do it. It feels like ( I may be wrong here) that you are suffering more than he is. Maybe put yourself first to give yourself some peace. I think we all have different ideas about what is the right thing to do at times when trying to help. I think it really depends on the two individuals concerned, the difficult situation and where we are on the journey for our own 'recovery' . But at the ned of the day we need to make our own needs for peace a high priority. Just my opinion. [/QUOTE]
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