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Would Like Some Support - Trying Not to Get Sucked In . . .
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 714327" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>We are here to share our experiences. Most of us have learned that our overtalking, interfering and "help" does nothing. And i mean nothing. They tune us out or avoid us unless they want something.</p><p></p><p>We as older mature folks have choices just like our younger family members do. We can learn or not learn, just like them. All of us have the ability to change, just like they do. If we never allow ourselves the hard work of changing for our betterment, what kind of example do we send our younger offspring?</p><p></p><p>"You can and should change, but I cant and wont even if it kills me." See? We often wont do exactly what they wont do. Being highly stressed, not sleeping, not taking care of ourselves, not loving ourselves can be as lethal as a drug overdose. We CAN change how we think and behave. If we refuse, then our beloved young ones see us not changing. So do our pleas for them to change have validity?</p><p></p><p>We care about you...we have all been there. We tell you collectively and seperately what we have seen work. But, like your grandson, you have free will and the ability to continue suffering and possibly getting sick over it. It is 100% up to you, as it is 100% up to your grandson. No words can change anyone who is steadfastly not going to change.</p><p></p><p>"The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result."</p><p></p><p>With all the love and light and good will I have inside me, i post this message. If you ever do want to start changing your way of seeing this situation, i highly suggest therapy. Ask around for a good therapist. Or interview a few to see who you connect with. Many of us got gained tons in therapy. It is hard to change our hardwired thinking on our own.</p><p></p><p>Take care.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 714327, member: 1550"] We are here to share our experiences. Most of us have learned that our overtalking, interfering and "help" does nothing. And i mean nothing. They tune us out or avoid us unless they want something. We as older mature folks have choices just like our younger family members do. We can learn or not learn, just like them. All of us have the ability to change, just like they do. If we never allow ourselves the hard work of changing for our betterment, what kind of example do we send our younger offspring? "You can and should change, but I cant and wont even if it kills me." See? We often wont do exactly what they wont do. Being highly stressed, not sleeping, not taking care of ourselves, not loving ourselves can be as lethal as a drug overdose. We CAN change how we think and behave. If we refuse, then our beloved young ones see us not changing. So do our pleas for them to change have validity? We care about you...we have all been there. We tell you collectively and seperately what we have seen work. But, like your grandson, you have free will and the ability to continue suffering and possibly getting sick over it. It is 100% up to you, as it is 100% up to your grandson. No words can change anyone who is steadfastly not going to change. "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result." With all the love and light and good will I have inside me, i post this message. If you ever do want to start changing your way of seeing this situation, i highly suggest therapy. Ask around for a good therapist. Or interview a few to see who you connect with. Many of us got gained tons in therapy. It is hard to change our hardwired thinking on our own. Take care. [/QUOTE]
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