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Would you wrongfully apoligize to stay on good terms with somebody.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 740402" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Nomad, in my opinion she would have said "Hey, I wont do that again around you" or something like that...she could have validated your discomfort and promised not to behave that way again with you. If you dont feel comfortable around somebody in my opinion its okay to detach.</p><p></p><p>Here is my own example. I have a real sensitivity to racial slurs and just insensitive language. I knew someone who used to say "the coloreds" and "illegals" even if she didnt know if the hispanic person was here legally or not. You get my drift. Now this was just her and me around our apartment. Nobody even heard. But after I said a few times that I didnt like derogatory terms to describe peoples ethnicity to no avail, I started dodging her when I saw her outside. Someone asked me if I was avoiding K. I totally blew the answer and said "No." But I was. Cowardly of me but I hate confrontation which is an explanation, not an excuse.</p><p></p><p>This lady and I used to talk a lot and we had a love of animals in common. It was expected that after I moved, we would still meet to talk. But it didn't happen.</p><p></p><p>I think we need to do what is in our comfort zone. I also would be very embarassed if somebody sitting with me in public loudly blurted an offensive sexual word. I dont want attention, especially not that kind, in public.</p><p></p><p>If your friend doesnt mind loudly spewing foul language, maybe even now you can see her at home rather than in public. We have a right to choose friends who do not make us feel uncomfortable.</p><p></p><p>You have a great day, Nomad. All this us JMO of course!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 740402, member: 1550"] Nomad, in my opinion she would have said "Hey, I wont do that again around you" or something like that...she could have validated your discomfort and promised not to behave that way again with you. If you dont feel comfortable around somebody in my opinion its okay to detach. Here is my own example. I have a real sensitivity to racial slurs and just insensitive language. I knew someone who used to say "the coloreds" and "illegals" even if she didnt know if the hispanic person was here legally or not. You get my drift. Now this was just her and me around our apartment. Nobody even heard. But after I said a few times that I didnt like derogatory terms to describe peoples ethnicity to no avail, I started dodging her when I saw her outside. Someone asked me if I was avoiding K. I totally blew the answer and said "No." But I was. Cowardly of me but I hate confrontation which is an explanation, not an excuse. This lady and I used to talk a lot and we had a love of animals in common. It was expected that after I moved, we would still meet to talk. But it didn't happen. I think we need to do what is in our comfort zone. I also would be very embarassed if somebody sitting with me in public loudly blurted an offensive sexual word. I dont want attention, especially not that kind, in public. If your friend doesnt mind loudly spewing foul language, maybe even now you can see her at home rather than in public. We have a right to choose friends who do not make us feel uncomfortable. You have a great day, Nomad. All this us JMO of course! [/QUOTE]
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