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y daughter has abruptly cut me out of her life
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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 673895" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Hi Vernadetta, I am so sorry for your aching heart. I am dealing with this as we write, so I do know the pain of it. My daughter and boyfriend can be very secretive, manipulative, and have expectations of help, with no appreciation, or reciprocation. Not that we give, to get back, but it is nice to know that efforts are appreciated and there is mutual feelings and respect. A normal, kind loving relationship.</p><p>I am sorry the "rug" has been pulled from underneath you in this way. I do not know what the cause would be in your case. In mine, it has been and is...drugs.</p><p>Our daughter uses our three grands as a sort of bargaining chip. It is heartless and unacceptable. But, it is reality.</p><p>I have had to face this on several occasions.</p><p>So, what do we do with all of those feelings?</p><p>I have thought, this year, I will create a notebook of sorts for my grands of notes from me, and let them know this way, how dearly I love and miss them. I was thinking it would help me, when I yearn to see them and I cannot. I don't know if they will ever see their notebook, but at least it is a way to release my feelings. Write about good things and my hopes for them.</p><p>Prayers help too, when I find myself going down with overwhelming thoughts.</p><p>I agree with you about the need for "wars". It seems this generation likes the drama of it. Watching MTV, and the "reality"'shows, the entertainment industry seems to feed this attitude.</p><p>From one Tutu ( grandmother) to another, I feel the ache of it.</p><p>Hang in there, pour your heart out, then create a toolbox to deal with this and remain strong. Keep posting, there are many wonderful kind folks here who have been through similar things. You are not alone.</p><p></p><p>Peace to you and yours</p><p>(((Hugs)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 673895, member: 19522"] Hi Vernadetta, I am so sorry for your aching heart. I am dealing with this as we write, so I do know the pain of it. My daughter and boyfriend can be very secretive, manipulative, and have expectations of help, with no appreciation, or reciprocation. Not that we give, to get back, but it is nice to know that efforts are appreciated and there is mutual feelings and respect. A normal, kind loving relationship. I am sorry the "rug" has been pulled from underneath you in this way. I do not know what the cause would be in your case. In mine, it has been and is...drugs. Our daughter uses our three grands as a sort of bargaining chip. It is heartless and unacceptable. But, it is reality. I have had to face this on several occasions. So, what do we do with all of those feelings? I have thought, this year, I will create a notebook of sorts for my grands of notes from me, and let them know this way, how dearly I love and miss them. I was thinking it would help me, when I yearn to see them and I cannot. I don't know if they will ever see their notebook, but at least it is a way to release my feelings. Write about good things and my hopes for them. Prayers help too, when I find myself going down with overwhelming thoughts. I agree with you about the need for "wars". It seems this generation likes the drama of it. Watching MTV, and the "reality"'shows, the entertainment industry seems to feed this attitude. From one Tutu ( grandmother) to another, I feel the ache of it. Hang in there, pour your heart out, then create a toolbox to deal with this and remain strong. Keep posting, there are many wonderful kind folks here who have been through similar things. You are not alone. Peace to you and yours (((Hugs))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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