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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 613400" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Hey, Tinamarie. I remember you a bit but Lordy I am sorry you are in the position you are in now. I have been there done that and like you just keep trying and trying to find the answer for my young teen. It drove me NUTS how many counselors tried to convince me "he's a great kid and is just experimenting". Duh! I raised the great kid and knew that he had a great big problem. There was only one woman who truly got it. He confided in her and trusted her. He also, lol, told her that he loved me so much that she could share anything that might help me find help for him. Funny and sad!</p><p></p><p>Outpatient is not going to work. He is seriously in trouble. I used two Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s in Orlando. One was highly recommended but had changed hands. It did more harm than good. The second one was great. It was flexible on insurance AND had a sliding scale AND allowed time payments. I told him that if he did not give his all that I would have Department of Juvenile Justice send him to a gov't program. Much to my surprise (why I was surprised I don't know) he got discharged from the great place and the day after I contacted Department of Juvenile Justice. </p><p></p><p>I won't go on and on about our experiences but just want you to know that you are right and your husband is wrong. It will not "go away" on it's own. Likely it will not "go away" with a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. on the other hand, if you can protect him from himself by limiting his freedom there is a change that he will improve. He is too young to be left with-o supervision as he honestly can accidentally cause permanent harm. If you can talk your husband into a treatment center make sure it is populated as much as possible by families similar to your socio/economic level. The first program I chose I did not know to check that. Most of the teens were from unstable backgrounds, often had been in multiple foster homes and many were Court ordered. easy child/difficult child learned more about criminal activity and immoral choices there than my other kids learned in a lifetime. </p><p></p><p>I'm sorry to "see" you again as I hoped your life was full of easy child living. Stay strong. Don't let him see you crying. It is a horrible place to be but you have to give your all for his sake. Hugs and prayers coming from me to you. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 613400, member: 35"] Hey, Tinamarie. I remember you a bit but Lordy I am sorry you are in the position you are in now. I have been there done that and like you just keep trying and trying to find the answer for my young teen. It drove me NUTS how many counselors tried to convince me "he's a great kid and is just experimenting". Duh! I raised the great kid and knew that he had a great big problem. There was only one woman who truly got it. He confided in her and trusted her. He also, lol, told her that he loved me so much that she could share anything that might help me find help for him. Funny and sad! Outpatient is not going to work. He is seriously in trouble. I used two Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s in Orlando. One was highly recommended but had changed hands. It did more harm than good. The second one was great. It was flexible on insurance AND had a sliding scale AND allowed time payments. I told him that if he did not give his all that I would have Department of Juvenile Justice send him to a gov't program. Much to my surprise (why I was surprised I don't know) he got discharged from the great place and the day after I contacted Department of Juvenile Justice. I won't go on and on about our experiences but just want you to know that you are right and your husband is wrong. It will not "go away" on it's own. Likely it will not "go away" with a good Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. on the other hand, if you can protect him from himself by limiting his freedom there is a change that he will improve. He is too young to be left with-o supervision as he honestly can accidentally cause permanent harm. If you can talk your husband into a treatment center make sure it is populated as much as possible by families similar to your socio/economic level. The first program I chose I did not know to check that. Most of the teens were from unstable backgrounds, often had been in multiple foster homes and many were Court ordered. easy child/difficult child learned more about criminal activity and immoral choices there than my other kids learned in a lifetime. I'm sorry to "see" you again as I hoped your life was full of easy child living. Stay strong. Don't let him see you crying. It is a horrible place to be but you have to give your all for his sake. Hugs and prayers coming from me to you. DDD [/QUOTE]
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