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<blockquote data-quote="Running_for_the_shelter" data-source="post: 61427" data-attributes="member: 2960"><p>Hey, lady! Here's a cyberhug. And here's my two cents:</p><p></p><p>First, no one is the same at work as they are with their families and everyone knows this. Everyone also knows that everyone else has serious stuff going on with their families that no one really knows about. </p><p></p><p>Second, your cubs are going to look more normal to others than to you. I hear it all the time. "They're all playing together nicely; you don't have to watch him like that." Then someone gets hurt and you know who did it. Then I say, That's why. But a difficult child can look like a normal, energetic, excitable, perhaps a little immature boy to someone who's only watching for a couple of hours. If they had to live with it for a weekend, they'd have a new tune. But, they don't need to be educated on this count.</p><p></p><p>Third, you can control any image damage that occurred. First step is to draw the line. You do not have to explain the real situation to anyone. It's not their business. When someone says something about the cub's behavior, you can say something about, Yeah, it wasn't one of his better nights. Too much excitement going on and all. We're working on it. And then change the topic. When someone says, You looked stressed last night or The boys are perfectly normal, you just smile and say, There's a lot more to it than that. And then change the topic. Finish the informalities and then get back to work. If you continue to be professional at work, the Night of the Rambunctious Child will be of little consequence or interest to anyone.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line is that you can handle your work. Whether you can handle your kids or not is irrelevant to your job. That's the perspective you need to hold when you interact with people at work.</p><p></p><p>by the way - Ever hear of the 18-40-60 rule? When you're 18, you're worried about what everyone is thinking of you. When you're 40, you don't give a rip what anyone is thinking of you. When you're 60, you realize no one was thinking about you the whole time, anyway. My point is that most people are caught up in their own stuff and whatever happened last night is not nearly as important to them as it is to you. Just let it go and go to work. It'll be OK. Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. I've got a few friends with those same shirts. Very successful people, too. </p><p></p><p>Here's another cyberhug. Much love...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Running_for_the_shelter, post: 61427, member: 2960"] Hey, lady! Here's a cyberhug. And here's my two cents: First, no one is the same at work as they are with their families and everyone knows this. Everyone also knows that everyone else has serious stuff going on with their families that no one really knows about. Second, your cubs are going to look more normal to others than to you. I hear it all the time. "They're all playing together nicely; you don't have to watch him like that." Then someone gets hurt and you know who did it. Then I say, That's why. But a difficult child can look like a normal, energetic, excitable, perhaps a little immature boy to someone who's only watching for a couple of hours. If they had to live with it for a weekend, they'd have a new tune. But, they don't need to be educated on this count. Third, you can control any image damage that occurred. First step is to draw the line. You do not have to explain the real situation to anyone. It's not their business. When someone says something about the cub's behavior, you can say something about, Yeah, it wasn't one of his better nights. Too much excitement going on and all. We're working on it. And then change the topic. When someone says, You looked stressed last night or The boys are perfectly normal, you just smile and say, There's a lot more to it than that. And then change the topic. Finish the informalities and then get back to work. If you continue to be professional at work, the Night of the Rambunctious Child will be of little consequence or interest to anyone. Bottom line is that you can handle your work. Whether you can handle your kids or not is irrelevant to your job. That's the perspective you need to hold when you interact with people at work. by the way - Ever hear of the 18-40-60 rule? When you're 18, you're worried about what everyone is thinking of you. When you're 40, you don't give a rip what anyone is thinking of you. When you're 60, you realize no one was thinking about you the whole time, anyway. My point is that most people are caught up in their own stuff and whatever happened last night is not nearly as important to them as it is to you. Just let it go and go to work. It'll be OK. Been there, done that, bought the T-shirt. I've got a few friends with those same shirts. Very successful people, too. Here's another cyberhug. Much love... [/QUOTE]
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