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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 569951" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>RM, Thank you. I really don't see daughter in law withholding grandbabies from me. She and I are actually pretty good friends and she gets along great with our family...with the exception being young difficult child now, sigh. </p><p></p><p>Janet, LOL about you and Tony. Ya, I have often said that husband and I "didn't know we couldn't...and so we did". We both felt a strong sense of obligation and loyalty, commitment to our family. Now, we've had our relationship "tested"...but we passed. We just plain love each other...and deserve each other, lol. I don't know anyone else who would be able to put up with the two of us, lol. </p><p></p><p>I don't know if young difficult child is looking at what this will do to he and the kids. I suppose in reality...he really hasn't had much of a relationship with them anyway. He was absent the first yr and half of his son's life (in the military) and then around alittle for second daughter (the middle one that almost died two weeks ago after seisure). And now this third baby girl born while he was in prison. And much of the time he was with them all in the past he was drinking/drugging. </p><p></p><p>Nancy...Yes, I was just wrapping Birthday presents for the middle daughter and made her cake a short while ago. Birthday party to be at our home around 5 this afternoon. All I could think about was daughter in law giving so much of herself to young difficult child....staying with him no matter how "abusive" he has been. It was her that put the money we gave to her on young difficult child's "books" while in prison. Her that visited him most often. Her that set up phone priveledges for him to be able to call her. She never left his "side"...She even went and picked up from prison with clothes she bought him, new cologne, etc...things to make him feel comfortable and good about being in the "free world" again. And now this is how he repays her. </p><p></p><p>I see it as more "destructive behavior". No, he is not "drunk" now...but yet he is destroying the ones he "loves". </p><p>I do think there is something more "wrong" with my son. This is NOT the example that his dad and I gave him growing up. It is very very sad. </p><p></p><p>DDD, Maybe so...as far as arrested maturity. But I just-don't-care! He acts weak. And ya know...I'm tired of him walking through the door after I've driven him to work, to parole office, to orientations, to home, etc, etc, etc...and all he wants to do is get on the computer and monitor the weather. Damnit, I'm tired of his obsessions. You know I obsessed! About raising a family...Raising them well! Raising them with two dedicated, hard working, positive minded, parents...who were damned and determined to succeed!!! To give them the VERY BEST that we could conjure up as we both had come from broken homes ourselves. But we didn't give up!!! </p><p></p><p>Thank you for wishing that husband and I get to enjoy life together while we are still young enough to do so. </p><p></p><p>I am so saddened and mad right now at young difficult child. I think he is a very selfish person right now. I don't care really what his challenges or obstacles are at this moment. And I am getting tired of being yelled at when I go to wake him or prod him out the door for work or next appointment. I don't need the attitude. </p><p></p><p>Uhg...Is this really what I signed up for!</p><p>Shaking head, </p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 569951, member: 3305"] RM, Thank you. I really don't see daughter in law withholding grandbabies from me. She and I are actually pretty good friends and she gets along great with our family...with the exception being young difficult child now, sigh. Janet, LOL about you and Tony. Ya, I have often said that husband and I "didn't know we couldn't...and so we did". We both felt a strong sense of obligation and loyalty, commitment to our family. Now, we've had our relationship "tested"...but we passed. We just plain love each other...and deserve each other, lol. I don't know anyone else who would be able to put up with the two of us, lol. I don't know if young difficult child is looking at what this will do to he and the kids. I suppose in reality...he really hasn't had much of a relationship with them anyway. He was absent the first yr and half of his son's life (in the military) and then around alittle for second daughter (the middle one that almost died two weeks ago after seisure). And now this third baby girl born while he was in prison. And much of the time he was with them all in the past he was drinking/drugging. Nancy...Yes, I was just wrapping Birthday presents for the middle daughter and made her cake a short while ago. Birthday party to be at our home around 5 this afternoon. All I could think about was daughter in law giving so much of herself to young difficult child....staying with him no matter how "abusive" he has been. It was her that put the money we gave to her on young difficult child's "books" while in prison. Her that visited him most often. Her that set up phone priveledges for him to be able to call her. She never left his "side"...She even went and picked up from prison with clothes she bought him, new cologne, etc...things to make him feel comfortable and good about being in the "free world" again. And now this is how he repays her. I see it as more "destructive behavior". No, he is not "drunk" now...but yet he is destroying the ones he "loves". I do think there is something more "wrong" with my son. This is NOT the example that his dad and I gave him growing up. It is very very sad. DDD, Maybe so...as far as arrested maturity. But I just-don't-care! He acts weak. And ya know...I'm tired of him walking through the door after I've driven him to work, to parole office, to orientations, to home, etc, etc, etc...and all he wants to do is get on the computer and monitor the weather. Damnit, I'm tired of his obsessions. You know I obsessed! About raising a family...Raising them well! Raising them with two dedicated, hard working, positive minded, parents...who were damned and determined to succeed!!! To give them the VERY BEST that we could conjure up as we both had come from broken homes ourselves. But we didn't give up!!! Thank you for wishing that husband and I get to enjoy life together while we are still young enough to do so. I am so saddened and mad right now at young difficult child. I think he is a very selfish person right now. I don't care really what his challenges or obstacles are at this moment. And I am getting tired of being yelled at when I go to wake him or prod him out the door for work or next appointment. I don't need the attitude. Uhg...Is this really what I signed up for! Shaking head, LMS [/QUOTE]
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