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Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 706188" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I thought this too. Admirable but tough, tough, tough.</p><p></p><p></p><p> Let me preface this by saying: I think you handled this beautifully and did the right thing. Underline that, please. I am wondering if your son has been using the Pot to self-medicate and if there is some mental vulnerability. If this is so it was even more important that you set limits and enforce boundaries, so that he cannot control his own psyche by acting out, and that the problem gets back where it really is: his own head.</p><p></p><p>I understand that you have almost no control right now over what he does or decides, but how you understand what is going on with him is important too. If he became unhinged by your setting a limit, there may be something in his own head that he is having trouble dealing with.</p><p></p><p>I think I might step back a little bit now, and not put any new pressure on him. What you have done thus far you had to do. He and the other kids have gotten the message: They will be kept safe in their household, that you will do what it takes to the extent of your ability to do so, to keep the house safe and that they be and act safely.</p><p></p><p>I forgot. How was your son's conduct at school? It sounds like he holds it together at work. Good.</p><p></p><p>All of the stuff he was spewing at you on some level he must feel about himself. Has he been drug-tested? Could he be using harder drugs, like meth, for instance. What about what about a hair test? That way you would not have to confront him. But I do not understand just how these are done. (I bought multi drug screen tests online at Walmart, that test ten panels. We will do it tomorrow, but this is the dip strip kind.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 706188, member: 18958"] I thought this too. Admirable but tough, tough, tough. Let me preface this by saying: I think you handled this beautifully and did the right thing. Underline that, please. I am wondering if your son has been using the Pot to self-medicate and if there is some mental vulnerability. If this is so it was even more important that you set limits and enforce boundaries, so that he cannot control his own psyche by acting out, and that the problem gets back where it really is: his own head. I understand that you have almost no control right now over what he does or decides, but how you understand what is going on with him is important too. If he became unhinged by your setting a limit, there may be something in his own head that he is having trouble dealing with. I think I might step back a little bit now, and not put any new pressure on him. What you have done thus far you had to do. He and the other kids have gotten the message: They will be kept safe in their household, that you will do what it takes to the extent of your ability to do so, to keep the house safe and that they be and act safely. I forgot. How was your son's conduct at school? It sounds like he holds it together at work. Good. All of the stuff he was spewing at you on some level he must feel about himself. Has he been drug-tested? Could he be using harder drugs, like meth, for instance. What about what about a hair test? That way you would not have to confront him. But I do not understand just how these are done. (I bought multi drug screen tests online at Walmart, that test ten panels. We will do it tomorrow, but this is the dip strip kind.) [/QUOTE]
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