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Your house/your rules -How to stop 17 yo from using pot in house?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 706204" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I think you have been clear in your posts about son's behavior. I did not assume there had been prior incidents.</p><p> Nor had anything happened that was physical until my son inadvertently broke my foot! When he was 17. I know he did not intend to. But it was so unsettling, upsetting to him that this happened--that he went to this extreme he was unable to talk about it for 11 years. He denied it happened.</p><p></p><p>By realizing what could happen--and taking steps to not go there--we protect our kids. I reacted to something. I could have prevented us going there, had I not over-reacted about something that really was trivial. You are not doing that. In fact, it is the reverse.</p><p> My son was this way too. And he never changed...except he did. It started at 17. And got worse after 21 or 22.</p><p></p><p>That this happened for us, means nothing in your situation. But young people change in response to hormonal changes, maturational forces, developmental hurdles, and such can overwhelm their inherent personalities. That is one thing that makes it so hard for us, their parents. The person we knew and loved can seem to have gone away, leaving a hostile stranger in their place.</p><p></p><p>The only reassuring thing, or things, is that they can return; and for some reason they need to change in this way...for reasons we do not understand and thus we cannot stop them. The worrisome thing is if it has to do with drugs. If I were in your shoes I would want to know that. Because if it is drug-related there are specific things that you may be able to do now that you will not be able to do in 3 months.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 706204, member: 18958"] I think you have been clear in your posts about son's behavior. I did not assume there had been prior incidents. Nor had anything happened that was physical until my son inadvertently broke my foot! When he was 17. I know he did not intend to. But it was so unsettling, upsetting to him that this happened--that he went to this extreme he was unable to talk about it for 11 years. He denied it happened. By realizing what could happen--and taking steps to not go there--we protect our kids. I reacted to something. I could have prevented us going there, had I not over-reacted about something that really was trivial. You are not doing that. In fact, it is the reverse. My son was this way too. And he never changed...except he did. It started at 17. And got worse after 21 or 22. That this happened for us, means nothing in your situation. But young people change in response to hormonal changes, maturational forces, developmental hurdles, and such can overwhelm their inherent personalities. That is one thing that makes it so hard for us, their parents. The person we knew and loved can seem to have gone away, leaving a hostile stranger in their place. The only reassuring thing, or things, is that they can return; and for some reason they need to change in this way...for reasons we do not understand and thus we cannot stop them. The worrisome thing is if it has to do with drugs. If I were in your shoes I would want to know that. Because if it is drug-related there are specific things that you may be able to do now that you will not be able to do in 3 months. [/QUOTE]
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