My wife and I are trying to figure out how to help our 13-yr-old difficult child, fostered since 2 days old, adopted at 3. Mom drank during pregnancy. No confirmed diagnosis of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS)/Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE), but all the signs are there, shared by birth brother, also our difficult child (15 yrs). Other kids in picture: 9-yr-old difficult child boy, also...