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13 year old granddaughter keeps stealing my credit cards and lying about using them
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 757758" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>That is not true. It's just that your granddaughter is a child. Children's brains mature as they grow up. It's not that she loves you less or more. It's a different kind of need.</p><p></p><p>I hope this doesn't sound harsh. But it's something all of us have to face. I have to too. Our relationships with our children and grandchildren can't be based on our own needs, but must be based largely in theirs. Your emotional needs, and my own are our responsibility to deal with; it's not the job of my son to take care of me, or to meet my needs.</p><p></p><p>The best thing you can do now is to learn to center yourself, and to try to find ways to live that are not based in whether or not your granddaughter calls you.</p><p> I am sure she wishes this. But you're not. You don't have legal or any other control. Over the mom or over the child. That's the reality. There is the need for you to find a way to be whole in yourself. And as I said in an earlier post, to decide what you want to do, with respect to gaining custody, or not, and begin to prepare for this.</p><p>This is terrible. This kind of relationship between mother and infant can likely end up to attachment issues for this baby. How very sad.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 757758, member: 18958"] That is not true. It's just that your granddaughter is a child. Children's brains mature as they grow up. It's not that she loves you less or more. It's a different kind of need. I hope this doesn't sound harsh. But it's something all of us have to face. I have to too. Our relationships with our children and grandchildren can't be based on our own needs, but must be based largely in theirs. Your emotional needs, and my own are our responsibility to deal with; it's not the job of my son to take care of me, or to meet my needs. The best thing you can do now is to learn to center yourself, and to try to find ways to live that are not based in whether or not your granddaughter calls you. I am sure she wishes this. But you're not. You don't have legal or any other control. Over the mom or over the child. That's the reality. There is the need for you to find a way to be whole in yourself. And as I said in an earlier post, to decide what you want to do, with respect to gaining custody, or not, and begin to prepare for this. This is terrible. This kind of relationship between mother and infant can likely end up to attachment issues for this baby. How very sad. [/QUOTE]
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