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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 758127" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>If you are in the US, it can be extremely difficult to even FIND a residential facility, much less a bed in one that is appropriate for your child's problems. It literally took me spending 5 or more hours a day over more than 2 weeks to find a hospital for my son when he was 12. My insurance wouldn't even begin to help until I actually had a report from Child Protective Services about my son strangling his little sister. CPS first wanted to get me into trouble because I yanked him off of her and left a bruise on his arm. The doctor had already documented my daughter's bruises (all around her throat - he was completely serious about murdering her). It took both the doctor and the school principal complaining about the social worker for a review to be done. The social worker was fired over her behavior and her insistence that my son was "an absolute angel" who was being persecuted by his "evil" mother. Then I was able to get documents faxed to our insurance company to get them to help us find someplace to help him. It was a difficult and convoluted process. Meanwhile my daughter had to sleep with us because who knew when Wiz would try again. It was very frustrating, especially on very little sleep.</p><p></p><p>One thing that really helped me get people to stop focusing on "poor little Wiz" and start focusing on giving us some concrete suggestions to help the entire family was to tell the doctors/therapists/whomevers that I was not going to sacrifice my daughter on the altar of my son's behavioral/mental/emotional problems. I actually asked a lot of shocking questions, apparently. I thought they were logical, but people seemed shocked when I asked them. Such as "what message is it sending my daughter when I pay her brother to not hurt her?" Yes, we had a therapist who wanted me to pay Wiz with a token every time I "caught" him being near his little sister without hurting her. Tokens could then be exchanged for things he wanted. I guess the therapist never bothered to think about other kids in the family. Luckily he was a postgraduate fellow, so he had a supervisor who was NOT happy to hear about his suggestion. I can guarantee that my daughter would have wondered why she was so unlovable that we had to pay her brother to not hurt her. </p><p></p><p>If you want specifics on how I got people to give me the info I needed, and got them to finally help us, let me know.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 758127, member: 1233"] If you are in the US, it can be extremely difficult to even FIND a residential facility, much less a bed in one that is appropriate for your child's problems. It literally took me spending 5 or more hours a day over more than 2 weeks to find a hospital for my son when he was 12. My insurance wouldn't even begin to help until I actually had a report from Child Protective Services about my son strangling his little sister. CPS first wanted to get me into trouble because I yanked him off of her and left a bruise on his arm. The doctor had already documented my daughter's bruises (all around her throat - he was completely serious about murdering her). It took both the doctor and the school principal complaining about the social worker for a review to be done. The social worker was fired over her behavior and her insistence that my son was "an absolute angel" who was being persecuted by his "evil" mother. Then I was able to get documents faxed to our insurance company to get them to help us find someplace to help him. It was a difficult and convoluted process. Meanwhile my daughter had to sleep with us because who knew when Wiz would try again. It was very frustrating, especially on very little sleep. One thing that really helped me get people to stop focusing on "poor little Wiz" and start focusing on giving us some concrete suggestions to help the entire family was to tell the doctors/therapists/whomevers that I was not going to sacrifice my daughter on the altar of my son's behavioral/mental/emotional problems. I actually asked a lot of shocking questions, apparently. I thought they were logical, but people seemed shocked when I asked them. Such as "what message is it sending my daughter when I pay her brother to not hurt her?" Yes, we had a therapist who wanted me to pay Wiz with a token every time I "caught" him being near his little sister without hurting her. Tokens could then be exchanged for things he wanted. I guess the therapist never bothered to think about other kids in the family. Luckily he was a postgraduate fellow, so he had a supervisor who was NOT happy to hear about his suggestion. I can guarantee that my daughter would have wondered why she was so unlovable that we had to pay her brother to not hurt her. If you want specifics on how I got people to give me the info I needed, and got them to finally help us, let me know. [/QUOTE]
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