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15 year old daughter think she is having sex
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 746971" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Well, I took my daughter to the GYN at about 12-13 for cysts. I gave the doctor written AND verbal permission to treat her and send me the bill (after insurance) for whatever she needed to be safe/protected. Boys were not an issue at that time, but I wanted to start the conversation early, give her a doctor to at least know, and let her know that she could go and get help/advice about sex if she didn't feel she could talk to me about it. In our state some parent made a big stink in the past about a child getting the pill without parental consent to even see the doctor. So at least 10 years ago, the doctor had to have permission to treat a minor, period. Our GYN would treat any young teen who made it in to an appointment, and take the consequences if the parent made a fuss. I just wanted my kid to know where to go to get answers.</p><p></p><p>I think kids at 15 are exposed to a LOT more sexual themes than past generations were. With 50 Shades and similar books and movies, sex is happening earlier and earlier because kids are exposed to more of it. There is less shame attached with having sex than there was even when we were teens (I feel ANCIENT typing that!).</p><p></p><p>As for the morning after pill, be relieved that she was mature enough to take care of that end of things. Don't be confrontational, just touch base occasionally. Let her know she can talk about this with you. It would be a whole lot more complicated and intense if she didn't get the morning after pill and she ended up pregnant. So at least she is trying to be responsible. You might put a box of condoms in the bathroom she uses, and let her know you will refill it as needed. Also let her know that you will support the pill or other birth control as advised by her doctor. Often that is actually a relief for a kid to know. I remember being 17 or 18 and discussing this from the kid side with a close friend. The discussion stuck with me because my friend said she would talk to MY mom and have my mom tell her mom if she ended up pregnant! Her folks were super uptight and completely unable to talk about sex/periods/reproduction with her for many year. I was blessed to have a mom who was very approachable about this. My friend and I were both relieved to NOT have that issue at the time - we were actually the "late bloomers" among our friends. </p><p></p><p>I know this is a while after your post, but sometimes bringing it up casually a few weeks after the initial discussion is helpful. Just my perspective, telling you what I did/hopefully would do in that situation!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 746971, member: 1233"] Well, I took my daughter to the GYN at about 12-13 for cysts. I gave the doctor written AND verbal permission to treat her and send me the bill (after insurance) for whatever she needed to be safe/protected. Boys were not an issue at that time, but I wanted to start the conversation early, give her a doctor to at least know, and let her know that she could go and get help/advice about sex if she didn't feel she could talk to me about it. In our state some parent made a big stink in the past about a child getting the pill without parental consent to even see the doctor. So at least 10 years ago, the doctor had to have permission to treat a minor, period. Our GYN would treat any young teen who made it in to an appointment, and take the consequences if the parent made a fuss. I just wanted my kid to know where to go to get answers. I think kids at 15 are exposed to a LOT more sexual themes than past generations were. With 50 Shades and similar books and movies, sex is happening earlier and earlier because kids are exposed to more of it. There is less shame attached with having sex than there was even when we were teens (I feel ANCIENT typing that!). As for the morning after pill, be relieved that she was mature enough to take care of that end of things. Don't be confrontational, just touch base occasionally. Let her know she can talk about this with you. It would be a whole lot more complicated and intense if she didn't get the morning after pill and she ended up pregnant. So at least she is trying to be responsible. You might put a box of condoms in the bathroom she uses, and let her know you will refill it as needed. Also let her know that you will support the pill or other birth control as advised by her doctor. Often that is actually a relief for a kid to know. I remember being 17 or 18 and discussing this from the kid side with a close friend. The discussion stuck with me because my friend said she would talk to MY mom and have my mom tell her mom if she ended up pregnant! Her folks were super uptight and completely unable to talk about sex/periods/reproduction with her for many year. I was blessed to have a mom who was very approachable about this. My friend and I were both relieved to NOT have that issue at the time - we were actually the "late bloomers" among our friends. I know this is a while after your post, but sometimes bringing it up casually a few weeks after the initial discussion is helpful. Just my perspective, telling you what I did/hopefully would do in that situation! [/QUOTE]
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