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I am brand new here so I hope I'm doing this right...my 22 year old daughter for the past 3.5 years has been taking our family on a wild roller coaster ride.
She left for college in August on an athletic scholarship, by late March of that school year, we got a midnight phone call from her newly ex boyfriend that she was sleeping in her car with some "thug" she just met at a club. We drove down, found her, took her home & by April 9th she left with all her things. That night she met the "current" boyfriend. By June she was pregnant. We talked them into an open adoption. She got a good part time job. Worked for 18 months. Started a 2nd job studying for her real estate license. She failed. Long story, but it's always somebody else's fault. Decided to quit the good job & just be the RE secretary that was really not an option unknown to her. Now without a job still "in love", moved out with him. Wound up living in her car with him until it got too cold & she came home! We were happy, but then spring came & she knew she had been pregnant again all along, & went back to living with him in her car. By May they found a motel to live in - the dream realized! On welfare, having a baby then the landlords found out their motel was being ripped off by the manager & everyone had 3 hours to get out. She calls me. We allowed her to come home, he found a couch to crash on. Baby was born in June, now 4 months old. Every time she has come home, she has reverted to a 3 year old, throwing tantrums, screaming etc. It's been hell. Now we my husband's fathers gold ring came up missing. No she has not seen it. Within making 3 phone calls to local pawn shops my husband found where they sold his ring. We have a picture of the boyfriends ID on the paperwork next to the actual ring. All his data, signature & thumbprint. Shop owner said they were a nice family. So they brought the baby in with them. My daughter lied & said her grama gave her the ring. They got $240. Now WHAT DO I DO? We are afraid to leave the house empty for fear of anything else walking out. I called the sheriff, but doubtful much will be done. Slap on the wrist etc. If it were just my daughter I would be done. But there is a 4 month old baby I need to think of - since they obviously don't! If anyone out there can help I am all ears. I do not want to raise my grandchild. She loves her mommy & I don't want to get in between that. But I have a 17 yr old daughter who is trying to have her last year at home before she goes off to college & has also been dealing with all of this as well! It is autumn it will be cold soon & of course there's the Holiday Season. I know this sounds so stupid, but I want to be grama & mom but it seems that all I will be is a monster who kicks out a baby & new mommy into the rain & snow!! Please any help would be appreciated.
She left for college in August on an athletic scholarship, by late March of that school year, we got a midnight phone call from her newly ex boyfriend that she was sleeping in her car with some "thug" she just met at a club. We drove down, found her, took her home & by April 9th she left with all her things. That night she met the "current" boyfriend. By June she was pregnant. We talked them into an open adoption. She got a good part time job. Worked for 18 months. Started a 2nd job studying for her real estate license. She failed. Long story, but it's always somebody else's fault. Decided to quit the good job & just be the RE secretary that was really not an option unknown to her. Now without a job still "in love", moved out with him. Wound up living in her car with him until it got too cold & she came home! We were happy, but then spring came & she knew she had been pregnant again all along, & went back to living with him in her car. By May they found a motel to live in - the dream realized! On welfare, having a baby then the landlords found out their motel was being ripped off by the manager & everyone had 3 hours to get out. She calls me. We allowed her to come home, he found a couch to crash on. Baby was born in June, now 4 months old. Every time she has come home, she has reverted to a 3 year old, throwing tantrums, screaming etc. It's been hell. Now we my husband's fathers gold ring came up missing. No she has not seen it. Within making 3 phone calls to local pawn shops my husband found where they sold his ring. We have a picture of the boyfriends ID on the paperwork next to the actual ring. All his data, signature & thumbprint. Shop owner said they were a nice family. So they brought the baby in with them. My daughter lied & said her grama gave her the ring. They got $240. Now WHAT DO I DO? We are afraid to leave the house empty for fear of anything else walking out. I called the sheriff, but doubtful much will be done. Slap on the wrist etc. If it were just my daughter I would be done. But there is a 4 month old baby I need to think of - since they obviously don't! If anyone out there can help I am all ears. I do not want to raise my grandchild. She loves her mommy & I don't want to get in between that. But I have a 17 yr old daughter who is trying to have her last year at home before she goes off to college & has also been dealing with all of this as well! It is autumn it will be cold soon & of course there's the Holiday Season. I know this sounds so stupid, but I want to be grama & mom but it seems that all I will be is a monster who kicks out a baby & new mommy into the rain & snow!! Please any help would be appreciated.