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23yo unmedicated daughter wants to move back home.
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 731876" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Dreamchatcher2,</p><p></p><p>Glad you reached out to us. I'm sorry for what you are dealing with but you are not alone.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>There is no easy answer here. I can only share with you what I would do and I'm going off of what you have shared.</p><p>I would tell her: "I love you and have given much thought to your request to move in with me and my answer is no" "I have to consider my own well being as well as yours and I do not see this working out" "I have no guarantee from you that you will take your medications and seek counselling for your issues and I am not up for that kind of battle with you. Here is a list of places that you can check into for assistance."</p><p></p><p>Now of course if you choose to not let her move in with you, I'm assuming it won't be received well by her. She most likely will swear that she will take her medications and get therapy. At which point you could tell her you will reconsider. If you choose to reconsider make sure you have very clear boundaries in place as to how long she can stay in your home and what behavior would not be acceptable / deal breaker that would be an automatic that she has to leave.</p><p></p><p>Bottom line, you can only do what you can live with but I encourage you to not let her bully you into a decision. Our difficult adult children will ramp things up when we tell them no. If you do tell her no be prepared for anything, from threats of suicide to her screaming "I hate you". If she ever does threaten suicide, call 911 and have them pick her up for evaluation. This sends a message to her that you will not be manipulated.</p><p></p><p>I wish you well with whatever decision you make. Please keep posting and let us know how things are going.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 731876, member: 18516"] Hi Dreamchatcher2, Glad you reached out to us. I'm sorry for what you are dealing with but you are not alone. There is no easy answer here. I can only share with you what I would do and I'm going off of what you have shared. I would tell her: "I love you and have given much thought to your request to move in with me and my answer is no" "I have to consider my own well being as well as yours and I do not see this working out" "I have no guarantee from you that you will take your medications and seek counselling for your issues and I am not up for that kind of battle with you. Here is a list of places that you can check into for assistance." Now of course if you choose to not let her move in with you, I'm assuming it won't be received well by her. She most likely will swear that she will take her medications and get therapy. At which point you could tell her you will reconsider. If you choose to reconsider make sure you have very clear boundaries in place as to how long she can stay in your home and what behavior would not be acceptable / deal breaker that would be an automatic that she has to leave. Bottom line, you can only do what you can live with but I encourage you to not let her bully you into a decision. Our difficult adult children will ramp things up when we tell them no. If you do tell her no be prepared for anything, from threats of suicide to her screaming "I hate you". If she ever does threaten suicide, call 911 and have them pick her up for evaluation. This sends a message to her that you will not be manipulated. I wish you well with whatever decision you make. Please keep posting and let us know how things are going. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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