My daughter is bipolar and most likely have other compounding diagnoses. She took herself off medication at 18yo and refuses to get help. The quick run down is I am divorced. She lived with dad and new wife until she broke rules and so asked to leave. She moved in with me with the understanding that she needed to get a job, save and move out in 6 months as I was getting married. The 6 months turned into 12 months, jobs on and off etc as well as all the turmoil that goes with this, violence, moody, list goes on. My fiancé and I broke up, very stressful time. Finally moved out last November to live with her boyfriend. I have learnt to get stronger and realize my enabling is not good for daughter and affecting my own life. She texted me a few hours ago asking to move home as wants to break up with boyfriend and save money, just for a month. My question is how can I say no yet be supportive and empathetic? It’s feels like by saying no, I am mean and selfish? Her dad will say no, and we have no other family members remotely close.