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<blockquote data-quote="Beta" data-source="post: 751717" data-attributes="member: 22597"><p>JayPee, I think you did great. Your comment about you being an "addict" is true. As painful and awful as all this is, there is an addictive quality to it. I've noticed that same thing within myself. It's been two and a half weeks since I blocked Joshua's phone, and I find myself wanting to creep back into that "enabling thinking" I've lived with so long. So there is definitely an aspect of having to work on changing ourselves. Josh apparently gets his hands on someone else's phone occasionally and he will get around our blocking by using another phone. He did that last night, but I blocked it immediately. My husband got a few texts from this other number, as well. So at least we know that nothing has changed. Same old, same old. </p><p>And when I have unblocked him previously, I too worry and fret all day, every time I hear the "ding" go off on my phone, I automatically cringe, wondering if it's him. That's a form of stress and control, just as you said. </p><p>And like your son, there's no reciprocal conversation possible. He just talks, yells, and swears over me or my husband. What good does that do any of us? It's pointless and harmful. </p><p></p><p>Absolutely keep praying. My son has turned away from God and spiritually is not capable right now of praying or seeing his need for God, so I have to step into the gap for him and pray. That's the way I look at it. Honestly, I see no change whatsoever coming from my prayers, but we can't always see what's going on behind the scenes or what the long-term effects of prayer might be. I also don't want to have to stand before God one day and explain why I failed to pray for him. I don't want that on my conscience. So, all that to say--stay strong in the boundaries you have placed, those "lines of peace," to help you live responsibly and peaceably.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Beta, post: 751717, member: 22597"] JayPee, I think you did great. Your comment about you being an "addict" is true. As painful and awful as all this is, there is an addictive quality to it. I've noticed that same thing within myself. It's been two and a half weeks since I blocked Joshua's phone, and I find myself wanting to creep back into that "enabling thinking" I've lived with so long. So there is definitely an aspect of having to work on changing ourselves. Josh apparently gets his hands on someone else's phone occasionally and he will get around our blocking by using another phone. He did that last night, but I blocked it immediately. My husband got a few texts from this other number, as well. So at least we know that nothing has changed. Same old, same old. And when I have unblocked him previously, I too worry and fret all day, every time I hear the "ding" go off on my phone, I automatically cringe, wondering if it's him. That's a form of stress and control, just as you said. And like your son, there's no reciprocal conversation possible. He just talks, yells, and swears over me or my husband. What good does that do any of us? It's pointless and harmful. Absolutely keep praying. My son has turned away from God and spiritually is not capable right now of praying or seeing his need for God, so I have to step into the gap for him and pray. That's the way I look at it. Honestly, I see no change whatsoever coming from my prayers, but we can't always see what's going on behind the scenes or what the long-term effects of prayer might be. I also don't want to have to stand before God one day and explain why I failed to pray for him. I don't want that on my conscience. So, all that to say--stay strong in the boundaries you have placed, those "lines of peace," to help you live responsibly and peaceably. [/QUOTE]
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