I think it's been a while since I updated what our granddaughter is now doing. She completed a 4-week rehab several hours from us.. While she was there she decided to get baptized in the church that the group went to on Sundays. She came back and stayed about 5 days at our house and I was really concerned. Not that she was using but just slipping into old habits. Like sleeping in, not helping on the house, or spending that much time with her son. After about 5 days here she was able to move into a women's Oxford House, a sober living home for women. She's been there about 10 days.
Yesterday she heard about a job opening at the homeless shelter from her friend that also works there and is in a different Oxford House. She had me drive her there so she could ask about the job. They told her they would have interviews next week, but they called her in today and interviewed her and she got the job starting tomorrow. It's about 6 hours a day but there might be extra hours on weekends. Right now she will be working from 4:00 to 10:00 p.m. so it's a start. I had wish she could get a job working daytime or nights so that when her son is out of school she would be free to see him. He actually gets out of school at 2:45 p.m. so if she's lucky she could maybe see him for 1 hour before going to work.
Her car needs several hundred dollars of work. There's a brake fluid leak. It does not have a current tag on it. But she does have one month of insurance on it. We helped her get one month of insurance as her Christmas present . Mainly so that when she went to court last week she would have liability insurance . That cut her $300 fine in half and that was less than one month of insurance . I'm hoping with the job she can start paying the Oxford House the weekly rent and get her car going. We told her as long as she's working would help get her to and from job for a couple weeks so she can start getting an income. In the past we had helped her keep the car going but it was probably contributed to many of her problems. Being with people she shouldn't be around...etc
Right now she's very stressed about her weight gain. She put on quite a bit of weight at rehab. I think the meth really messed up her metabolism. This is the highest she's probably weighed. The majority of her clothes does not fit. Her bras don't fit. She did have a friend in the Oxford House that gave her some clothes to wear for her interview today. I took her to a local department store and bought two bras and a pair of sweatpants. She has a bad habit of thinking that tight clothes makes makes her look skinnier. I tried to get her to try the baggy joggers that seem to be in style. But she wasn't interested.
Unfortunately, our great grandsons dad is in more legal trouble. In late October he was in jail for domestic violence situation. There was a no contact order and he broke into the house they used to share with his current wife, and battered her again. And then head out from law enforcement for about 3 days. His dad got him to turn himself in, but now he may be locked up for a year or two because this has been an ongoing situation and he's in contempt of court for breaking his no contact order. This is also hard on our 4-year-old great-grandson because he had been spending every other weekend with his dad and looked forward to it. He was there for the first incident and witnessed more than he probably should have. He had nightmares for a couple weeks but things have calmed down now. He does know his dad's in jail.
And while I'm hopeful that things are finally taking a turn for the better for our granddaughter, I find I am holding a lot of resentment for her behavior the past few years. Make that about the past 8 years since she was 14! I know now is not the time to bring things up. I'm trying to be supportive. It's just hard. This new job will not give her much time with her own child. And while I want great grandson here. I keep hoping that one of the parents will be able to step up and give us some free time. And now it all falls on her...the dad isn't an option.
Ksm
Yesterday she heard about a job opening at the homeless shelter from her friend that also works there and is in a different Oxford House. She had me drive her there so she could ask about the job. They told her they would have interviews next week, but they called her in today and interviewed her and she got the job starting tomorrow. It's about 6 hours a day but there might be extra hours on weekends. Right now she will be working from 4:00 to 10:00 p.m. so it's a start. I had wish she could get a job working daytime or nights so that when her son is out of school she would be free to see him. He actually gets out of school at 2:45 p.m. so if she's lucky she could maybe see him for 1 hour before going to work.
Her car needs several hundred dollars of work. There's a brake fluid leak. It does not have a current tag on it. But she does have one month of insurance on it. We helped her get one month of insurance as her Christmas present . Mainly so that when she went to court last week she would have liability insurance . That cut her $300 fine in half and that was less than one month of insurance . I'm hoping with the job she can start paying the Oxford House the weekly rent and get her car going. We told her as long as she's working would help get her to and from job for a couple weeks so she can start getting an income. In the past we had helped her keep the car going but it was probably contributed to many of her problems. Being with people she shouldn't be around...etc
Right now she's very stressed about her weight gain. She put on quite a bit of weight at rehab. I think the meth really messed up her metabolism. This is the highest she's probably weighed. The majority of her clothes does not fit. Her bras don't fit. She did have a friend in the Oxford House that gave her some clothes to wear for her interview today. I took her to a local department store and bought two bras and a pair of sweatpants. She has a bad habit of thinking that tight clothes makes makes her look skinnier. I tried to get her to try the baggy joggers that seem to be in style. But she wasn't interested.
Unfortunately, our great grandsons dad is in more legal trouble. In late October he was in jail for domestic violence situation. There was a no contact order and he broke into the house they used to share with his current wife, and battered her again. And then head out from law enforcement for about 3 days. His dad got him to turn himself in, but now he may be locked up for a year or two because this has been an ongoing situation and he's in contempt of court for breaking his no contact order. This is also hard on our 4-year-old great-grandson because he had been spending every other weekend with his dad and looked forward to it. He was there for the first incident and witnessed more than he probably should have. He had nightmares for a couple weeks but things have calmed down now. He does know his dad's in jail.
And while I'm hopeful that things are finally taking a turn for the better for our granddaughter, I find I am holding a lot of resentment for her behavior the past few years. Make that about the past 8 years since she was 14! I know now is not the time to bring things up. I'm trying to be supportive. It's just hard. This new job will not give her much time with her own child. And while I want great grandson here. I keep hoping that one of the parents will be able to step up and give us some free time. And now it all falls on her...the dad isn't an option.
Ksm
