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<blockquote data-quote="country" data-source="post: 733496" data-attributes="member: 20890"><p>Wow, thank you all so much. In the past 24 hours the landscape has changed significantly... </p><p></p><p>He is being terminated from the BoysTown program tomorrow. He has been running around campus, evading police and smoking weed the past couple days. Causing a ruckus, again. Our agreement had been "no riff raff" in order to move in at Grandpas. He also knew that if he got terminated from Boys Town, the deal was off and he could not come home... so here we are.</p><p></p><p>I spent yesterday calling homeless shelters and youth outreach to find a bed for him. Heartbreakingly for multiple reasons, they're all full. I found one bed for a program that sounds awesome for him and he has agreed to apply. Unfortunately, it is 5 hours from us- he desperately wants to be closer to home to regain connection to his siblings and us, but I've told him that is not an option now because of his actions. If he does the program, maintains a job and engages in life and rules for 3 months, he can consider moving back to our home town. Everyone around him is working harder to help him than he is to help himself - and THAT has to change.</p><p></p><p>He had several allies at BoysTown who truly felt hope and saw the spark in his eye that I do. It is sad to see it end this way for all of us. However, while seeing him walk across the graduation stage once felt like such a victory, right now it seems inconsequential. I only want him to survive. He has no idea how his actions impact those around him. He has no idea what limits are or when enough is enough. I'm praying he gets accepted to this program and can go learn some independence skills and grow up a little.</p><p></p><p>I so appreciate having a place to come where people "get it" and I'm not judged. I thank you all for your wisdom and your peaceful energy. Blessings to you all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="country, post: 733496, member: 20890"] Wow, thank you all so much. In the past 24 hours the landscape has changed significantly... He is being terminated from the BoysTown program tomorrow. He has been running around campus, evading police and smoking weed the past couple days. Causing a ruckus, again. Our agreement had been "no riff raff" in order to move in at Grandpas. He also knew that if he got terminated from Boys Town, the deal was off and he could not come home... so here we are. I spent yesterday calling homeless shelters and youth outreach to find a bed for him. Heartbreakingly for multiple reasons, they're all full. I found one bed for a program that sounds awesome for him and he has agreed to apply. Unfortunately, it is 5 hours from us- he desperately wants to be closer to home to regain connection to his siblings and us, but I've told him that is not an option now because of his actions. If he does the program, maintains a job and engages in life and rules for 3 months, he can consider moving back to our home town. Everyone around him is working harder to help him than he is to help himself - and THAT has to change. He had several allies at BoysTown who truly felt hope and saw the spark in his eye that I do. It is sad to see it end this way for all of us. However, while seeing him walk across the graduation stage once felt like such a victory, right now it seems inconsequential. I only want him to survive. He has no idea how his actions impact those around him. He has no idea what limits are or when enough is enough. I'm praying he gets accepted to this program and can go learn some independence skills and grow up a little. I so appreciate having a place to come where people "get it" and I'm not judged. I thank you all for your wisdom and your peaceful energy. Blessings to you all. [/QUOTE]
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