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<blockquote data-quote="Asdf" data-source="post: 723361" data-attributes="member: 22485"><p>I am not sure why she opted to adopt in her 50s. My husband (her only other child) was in his 30's when she elected to do this. Midlife crisis? Wanting to be loved? On top of her age, she has an extensive mental health history and she adopted this child with her 4th husband. He has never had children and wanted nothing to do with them. So, you are exactly correct, he finally gave in after nagging. And, he wanted to move, so he gave her an ultimatum that if she agreed to move, he would sign the papers to adopt (So, they bartered with a CHILD - although she denies this now, but multiple people recall her saying it). He is an odd person himself and told her it was basically her deal if they adopted - he wouldn't do anything for the child and she mentioned before he won't even tell him he loves him, "because he only loves her." She had to find babysitters while he was in the house with the child if she wanted to go somewhere, because he refused to watch him whatsoever. He has shown a little more interest as he's gotten older, but is essentially the "present, absent dad" if there is such a thing. The more I type this story ... the more it hits home just how sick these people are. He was always secretive, but the last time I saw him, you could tell he was frustrated and that's when he said he was a pathological liar and no consequences bothered him. The moved again a few years ago, and at the last minute he stayed behind and said he had to get a certification on the internet to find a better job - he was gone for an entire year and everyone was wondering if he was going to come back. Clearly, there must be things going on in that home. She's clearly unbalanced as someone said earlier, but I still don't get her rage. Does she regret this decision now? Is she embarrassed? I think a "normal" kid would have a heard time escaping this situation unscathed - let alone a child with issues. They are creating a monster. Thanks for responding to my posts, you have great insights.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Asdf, post: 723361, member: 22485"] I am not sure why she opted to adopt in her 50s. My husband (her only other child) was in his 30's when she elected to do this. Midlife crisis? Wanting to be loved? On top of her age, she has an extensive mental health history and she adopted this child with her 4th husband. He has never had children and wanted nothing to do with them. So, you are exactly correct, he finally gave in after nagging. And, he wanted to move, so he gave her an ultimatum that if she agreed to move, he would sign the papers to adopt (So, they bartered with a CHILD - although she denies this now, but multiple people recall her saying it). He is an odd person himself and told her it was basically her deal if they adopted - he wouldn't do anything for the child and she mentioned before he won't even tell him he loves him, "because he only loves her." She had to find babysitters while he was in the house with the child if she wanted to go somewhere, because he refused to watch him whatsoever. He has shown a little more interest as he's gotten older, but is essentially the "present, absent dad" if there is such a thing. The more I type this story ... the more it hits home just how sick these people are. He was always secretive, but the last time I saw him, you could tell he was frustrated and that's when he said he was a pathological liar and no consequences bothered him. The moved again a few years ago, and at the last minute he stayed behind and said he had to get a certification on the internet to find a better job - he was gone for an entire year and everyone was wondering if he was going to come back. Clearly, there must be things going on in that home. She's clearly unbalanced as someone said earlier, but I still don't get her rage. Does she regret this decision now? Is she embarrassed? I think a "normal" kid would have a heard time escaping this situation unscathed - let alone a child with issues. They are creating a monster. Thanks for responding to my posts, you have great insights. [/QUOTE]
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