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<blockquote data-quote="AppleCori" data-source="post: 754573" data-attributes="member: 16024"><p>Hi and welcome, Overwhelmed</p><p></p><p>You said that you can’t afford to support them much longer, so the decision will be out of your hands, soon, anyway. I hope you haven’t spent your retirement! Don’t do that!</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is likely eligible for emergency housing, low-income housing (section 8) utility assistance, food stamps, free Christmas gifts, healthcare, etc. from the government, the utility companies, churches, food banks, and various charitable organizations. </p><p></p><p>Give her some phone numbers and let her stand on her own two feet. </p><p>She will only learn to take care of herself when you stop doing everything for her. Right now she has no incentive to do anything for herself because it is easier to have you do it. She will never even try as long as you take over responsibility for her life.</p><p></p><p>You will likely be surprised at how well she does, once you stop the gravy train. </p><p></p><p>Yes, she will probably scream at you, call you names, threaten you, tell you how she will be homeless, etc, and it is all your fault, if you don’t keep giving her money. Don’t listen to the abuse. You aren’t responsible for her choices, nor are you obligated to support her.</p><p></p><p>I hope you will stay here with us and learn how to let go and learn to take care of yourself and your needs.</p><p></p><p></p><p>No, this situation is not healthy for you, your grandkids, or your daughter. You need to stop allowing yourself to be abused.</p><p></p><p> You cope by taking care of yourself and letting others take care of themselves, also. </p><p></p><p>Apple</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AppleCori, post: 754573, member: 16024"] Hi and welcome, Overwhelmed You said that you can’t afford to support them much longer, so the decision will be out of your hands, soon, anyway. I hope you haven’t spent your retirement! Don’t do that! Your daughter is likely eligible for emergency housing, low-income housing (section 8) utility assistance, food stamps, free Christmas gifts, healthcare, etc. from the government, the utility companies, churches, food banks, and various charitable organizations. Give her some phone numbers and let her stand on her own two feet. She will only learn to take care of herself when you stop doing everything for her. Right now she has no incentive to do anything for herself because it is easier to have you do it. She will never even try as long as you take over responsibility for her life. You will likely be surprised at how well she does, once you stop the gravy train. Yes, she will probably scream at you, call you names, threaten you, tell you how she will be homeless, etc, and it is all your fault, if you don’t keep giving her money. Don’t listen to the abuse. You aren’t responsible for her choices, nor are you obligated to support her. I hope you will stay here with us and learn how to let go and learn to take care of yourself and your needs. No, this situation is not healthy for you, your grandkids, or your daughter. You need to stop allowing yourself to be abused. You cope by taking care of yourself and letting others take care of themselves, also. Apple [/QUOTE]
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