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Am I steering my own, true course or heading for the rocks?
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 742659" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>M has only been motivated to help J and I.</p><p></p><p>But he has a strong voice and he is excellent at boundaries, capacities that for me are growing edges.</p><p></p><p>M wants me to step up and to take control. He does not want to dominate. He wants a partner. As I step up and grow stronger, he grows softer and more emotionally available. His anger grows less, not more. He has not wanted to either step into or dominate my relationship with J.</p><p></p><p>He wants a family. While he loves his children and seeks as much contact as they allow, he sees his family as us.</p><p></p><p>Like you, I believe that fairytales are fantasies. I want real life. I believe that we can work this out, but it is a delicate balance. The solutions, I think are in J, not in me. If I can hold that in my head, that will serve me.</p><p></p><p>You said SWOT, a few days ago, that you felt this could be a turning point. I think it could be too. I think one answer is for me to stay in the present, in myself. This has always been hard, but I am growing. Thank you very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 742659, member: 18958"] M has only been motivated to help J and I. But he has a strong voice and he is excellent at boundaries, capacities that for me are growing edges. M wants me to step up and to take control. He does not want to dominate. He wants a partner. As I step up and grow stronger, he grows softer and more emotionally available. His anger grows less, not more. He has not wanted to either step into or dominate my relationship with J. He wants a family. While he loves his children and seeks as much contact as they allow, he sees his family as us. Like you, I believe that fairytales are fantasies. I want real life. I believe that we can work this out, but it is a delicate balance. The solutions, I think are in J, not in me. If I can hold that in my head, that will serve me. You said SWOT, a few days ago, that you felt this could be a turning point. I think it could be too. I think one answer is for me to stay in the present, in myself. This has always been hard, but I am growing. Thank you very much. [/QUOTE]
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