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Am I steering my own, true course or heading for the rocks?
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<blockquote data-quote="Tired out" data-source="post: 742751" data-attributes="member: 23103"><p>Oh Copa, I don't know. I know mine is just stringing me along. </p><p>I don't want to hijack your thread but I will tell you what happened.</p><p>So...</p><p> back story;</p><p>I have access to son's accounts because he didn't have a smart phone when he moved out and I set everything up for him to have electronic banking and bill pay. He would give me money and I would pay his bills. Call me crazy but at least I knew his bills were being paid and that gave me peace of mind because if rent was being paid he wasn't going to get evicted and want to move back in here.</p><p>and so...</p><p>Last Tuesday ds texted me</p><p>ds: "will you make my car payment and take it out of my check tomorrow" </p><p>Me: "you can do it tomorrow from your account"</p><p> Then I(nosy me) looked up his car payment account and he was a month behind. </p><p>I text him, "better call finance company and let them know you had a little financial difficulty and you are paying."</p><p></p><p>He didn't call them and he didn't make the payment.</p><p>I think his plan was for me to make the payment and stiff me. I don't know that for sure, but if not why didn't he make it?</p><p> Yesterday was oldest (A) son's birthday (our physically handicapped son)--I invited ds (B) for cake, he didn't even even text him happy birthday (sad for A)</p><p>Today he text me, "can you send me finance co #?"</p><p>Me, "yes #, did you get text for A's birthday?"</p><p>B, "yes. I won't come there Dad is there"</p><p>B, " I won't come for Thanksgiving or Christmas either and don't buy me anything either"</p><p>Me, " you don't want anything?"</p><p>B, "No and if you give me anything I will put it at your front door"</p><p>Me, "What brought this on?"</p><p></p><p>Of course now he doesn't answer. and So I am back to thinking what brought it on is that I wasn't a sap and didn't pay his car payment. </p><p></p><p>I have tried to get him to meet me at the bank to remove my name off of his checking account.The account was set up when he was a kid. The bank said the only thing I can do without him there is to totally close the account. His pay is direct deposit so that wouldn't be a great solution BUT I may do it.</p><p></p><p>I feel like he likes to rip my heart out and stomp on it. And why do I give a hoot about him? He is a narcissistic self entitled brat.</p><p>I feel sick again. And I know that this is peon stuff compared to what a lot of you are dealing with. I don't know if drugs fuel him. He used to be into pot. he has crazy ideas about how his dad treated him..says he was never nice to him, treated him badly.. it is all crap. Made up in his head to justify stealing from his dad. (see my original post)</p><p></p><p>Anyhow.. last Wed he was supposed to meet me, didn't show. Told me he got called into work (that was a lie, his car was at his apt at 11:30am), asked me to meet him Thursday at bank, didn't show. </p><p>Asked me for Friday, I said no. He was stinging me along.</p><p></p><p>So I get the feeling.. strung along or best he can do?</p><p></p><p>Mine is stringing me along. </p><p></p><p>I need a therapist because I NEED to let go.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tired out, post: 742751, member: 23103"] Oh Copa, I don't know. I know mine is just stringing me along. I don't want to hijack your thread but I will tell you what happened. So... back story; I have access to son's accounts because he didn't have a smart phone when he moved out and I set everything up for him to have electronic banking and bill pay. He would give me money and I would pay his bills. Call me crazy but at least I knew his bills were being paid and that gave me peace of mind because if rent was being paid he wasn't going to get evicted and want to move back in here. and so... Last Tuesday ds texted me ds: "will you make my car payment and take it out of my check tomorrow" Me: "you can do it tomorrow from your account" Then I(nosy me) looked up his car payment account and he was a month behind. I text him, "better call finance company and let them know you had a little financial difficulty and you are paying." He didn't call them and he didn't make the payment. I think his plan was for me to make the payment and stiff me. I don't know that for sure, but if not why didn't he make it? Yesterday was oldest (A) son's birthday (our physically handicapped son)--I invited ds (B) for cake, he didn't even even text him happy birthday (sad for A) Today he text me, "can you send me finance co #?" Me, "yes #, did you get text for A's birthday?" B, "yes. I won't come there Dad is there" B, " I won't come for Thanksgiving or Christmas either and don't buy me anything either" Me, " you don't want anything?" B, "No and if you give me anything I will put it at your front door" Me, "What brought this on?" Of course now he doesn't answer. and So I am back to thinking what brought it on is that I wasn't a sap and didn't pay his car payment. I have tried to get him to meet me at the bank to remove my name off of his checking account.The account was set up when he was a kid. The bank said the only thing I can do without him there is to totally close the account. His pay is direct deposit so that wouldn't be a great solution BUT I may do it. I feel like he likes to rip my heart out and stomp on it. And why do I give a hoot about him? He is a narcissistic self entitled brat. I feel sick again. And I know that this is peon stuff compared to what a lot of you are dealing with. I don't know if drugs fuel him. He used to be into pot. he has crazy ideas about how his dad treated him..says he was never nice to him, treated him badly.. it is all crap. Made up in his head to justify stealing from his dad. (see my original post) Anyhow.. last Wed he was supposed to meet me, didn't show. Told me he got called into work (that was a lie, his car was at his apt at 11:30am), asked me to meet him Thursday at bank, didn't show. Asked me for Friday, I said no. He was stinging me along. So I get the feeling.. strung along or best he can do? Mine is stringing me along. I need a therapist because I NEED to let go. [/QUOTE]
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