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Am I steering my own, true course or heading for the rocks?
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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 742990" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>What if you said...you can come here and stay with us for TWO MONTHS (in the other house or in the separate suite in your house) while we work out parameters for a longer stay. If we cannot work out parameters in that time, you'll have to make other arrangements after that. All I ask during that two months is that you attend counseling with me once per week during that time to work on longer term expectations together, and see your doctor and take your medications. You might have to put the two-month term in writing for legal reasons, so there is a clear end date that won't require 30-day notice and messy legal evictions if it doesn't work out.</p><p></p><p>But perhaps putting a time limit on it up front, and making it contingent attending joint counseling together, would allow you both to move forward and give you the security of knowing there is an end date if he is totally unwilling to step up for another chance here. It might give him the time he needs to stabilize and give both of you the time you need to reconnect and work on longer term plans while he is in a safe, stable spot.</p><p></p><p>He does seem to be reaching out and at least giving lip service to the idea of taking care of his health. Which is a big step up from "F U" in my book, anyway.</p><p></p><p>Just a thought.</p><p></p><p>EDIT - I might wait to see if he follows through on the things he is promising now, calling his doctor and showing up for a first meeting where he is, before making this offer.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 742990, member: 23349"] What if you said...you can come here and stay with us for TWO MONTHS (in the other house or in the separate suite in your house) while we work out parameters for a longer stay. If we cannot work out parameters in that time, you'll have to make other arrangements after that. All I ask during that two months is that you attend counseling with me once per week during that time to work on longer term expectations together, and see your doctor and take your medications. You might have to put the two-month term in writing for legal reasons, so there is a clear end date that won't require 30-day notice and messy legal evictions if it doesn't work out. But perhaps putting a time limit on it up front, and making it contingent attending joint counseling together, would allow you both to move forward and give you the security of knowing there is an end date if he is totally unwilling to step up for another chance here. It might give him the time he needs to stabilize and give both of you the time you need to reconnect and work on longer term plans while he is in a safe, stable spot. He does seem to be reaching out and at least giving lip service to the idea of taking care of his health. Which is a big step up from "F U" in my book, anyway. Just a thought. EDIT - I might wait to see if he follows through on the things he is promising now, calling his doctor and showing up for a first meeting where he is, before making this offer. [/QUOTE]
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