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<blockquote data-quote="Misssy2" data-source="post: 745036" data-attributes="member: 23537"><p>You said that we are "disappointed, frustrated, afraid and just plain done....Did you tell him these things? Did you tell him that he has never apologized? Because he may really not know these things....The brains arrest when they start using drugs..if he started using early..you have to treat him like he is the age he was when he started using..Not "treat' him but raise him up from that point.</p><p></p><p>I have 2 sons..one an addict</p><p>1 is not an addict but has never grown up...I is living with me...I'm going to post my struggle with him...but I have been working hard at raising him past 16 (he is 29) cause his Dad left when he was 16 and this impacted this child more than the other...and he literally didn't know some of the things were offending me or scaring me...and when I bring up the things he needs to hear...he of course balks at me....</p><p></p><p>But then I notice at time goes on he "improves" and grows.</p><p></p><p>Your son is in a good place...he doesn't "need" you right now because you both have a toxic relationship right now...Maybe write him a letter while he is there and give it to his counselor or him.....about why you are dissappionted, frustrated sad....and also put YOUR part in it...how you think you could have done better...And maybe a timeline for him as to if, he does xyz...that you will be more willing to help in any way you can.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Misssy2, post: 745036, member: 23537"] You said that we are "disappointed, frustrated, afraid and just plain done....Did you tell him these things? Did you tell him that he has never apologized? Because he may really not know these things....The brains arrest when they start using drugs..if he started using early..you have to treat him like he is the age he was when he started using..Not "treat' him but raise him up from that point. I have 2 sons..one an addict 1 is not an addict but has never grown up...I is living with me...I'm going to post my struggle with him...but I have been working hard at raising him past 16 (he is 29) cause his Dad left when he was 16 and this impacted this child more than the other...and he literally didn't know some of the things were offending me or scaring me...and when I bring up the things he needs to hear...he of course balks at me.... But then I notice at time goes on he "improves" and grows. Your son is in a good place...he doesn't "need" you right now because you both have a toxic relationship right now...Maybe write him a letter while he is there and give it to his counselor or him.....about why you are dissappionted, frustrated sad....and also put YOUR part in it...how you think you could have done better...And maybe a timeline for him as to if, he does xyz...that you will be more willing to help in any way you can..... [/QUOTE]
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