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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 535187" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>Thank you everyone.</p><p>Calamity-she has spend 2 and a half years in intensive residential treatment at 2 different centers. One was DBT (prefered Borderline (BPD) treatment)</p><p></p><p>Janet-the police stink here and so do the juvenile laws. We have more kids per capita than any other state and so our schools and JJS are under funded. The police know it and also know they will spend so much time coming to certain houses over and over-they try to make you feel like trash and that they can do nothing. (I have it on inside authority that they had a meeting about difficult child and were instructed to offer no help unless she finially did a felony. So they refuse to transport her to Youth Services -we can't because she tries to jump out or pull the steering wheel), they will file a charge if they have proof-takes months to go through court. Refuse to do anything about running away or truancies (kids all over the streets and malls), because the laws don't support anything they can do. There is finially a crisis team for the mentally ill. 1 team for a large city!!! At my family meetings only one family has gotten on the list to be served when needed. State funded intervention is minimal for girls. difficult child waited 3 months to get one of 14 beds at the DBT place. She had to wait in DT because none of their other holding places are lock down. As for the bank-been there. They won't do anything for $80.00 bucks, esp. since it is our daughter. $20.00 more and bingo (difficult child knows).</p><p></p><p>DF-we cannot kick her out or enable her to go until she is 18. If we do, we will have abandonment charges filed. Especially since we are due to see the judge. Not sure how I feel about that given her level of functioning right now which is about a 45 and she could be admitted based on that. She wanted her clothes and basics. When she hits 18, we are glad to give it all to her and see if she can do it on her own. </p><p></p><p>Recovering-I like what you said. I do believe I have acceptance for her MH issues, the trouble is, she is a teen and you just don't know how severe, or what she might be capable of. Can she finish college? Can she hold a job? Can she heal? Will she be one of the lucky Borderline (BPD) people who are functional someday? I have detatched as much as a mother can from a minor. I don't worry all night when she runs. I say a prayer and move on with my plans. I don't control her friends or decisions because I can't. Trust me, just months ago I would have been messaging these idiot friends and confronting and....and... I am working on peace. I don't know that I will ever be in a zen state-not who I am. I appreciate your comfort and sharing. I will eventually be better at detachment. Each day-one at a time <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 535187, member: 11001"] Thank you everyone. Calamity-she has spend 2 and a half years in intensive residential treatment at 2 different centers. One was DBT (prefered Borderline (BPD) treatment) Janet-the police stink here and so do the juvenile laws. We have more kids per capita than any other state and so our schools and JJS are under funded. The police know it and also know they will spend so much time coming to certain houses over and over-they try to make you feel like trash and that they can do nothing. (I have it on inside authority that they had a meeting about difficult child and were instructed to offer no help unless she finially did a felony. So they refuse to transport her to Youth Services -we can't because she tries to jump out or pull the steering wheel), they will file a charge if they have proof-takes months to go through court. Refuse to do anything about running away or truancies (kids all over the streets and malls), because the laws don't support anything they can do. There is finially a crisis team for the mentally ill. 1 team for a large city!!! At my family meetings only one family has gotten on the list to be served when needed. State funded intervention is minimal for girls. difficult child waited 3 months to get one of 14 beds at the DBT place. She had to wait in DT because none of their other holding places are lock down. As for the bank-been there. They won't do anything for $80.00 bucks, esp. since it is our daughter. $20.00 more and bingo (difficult child knows). DF-we cannot kick her out or enable her to go until she is 18. If we do, we will have abandonment charges filed. Especially since we are due to see the judge. Not sure how I feel about that given her level of functioning right now which is about a 45 and she could be admitted based on that. She wanted her clothes and basics. When she hits 18, we are glad to give it all to her and see if she can do it on her own. Recovering-I like what you said. I do believe I have acceptance for her MH issues, the trouble is, she is a teen and you just don't know how severe, or what she might be capable of. Can she finish college? Can she hold a job? Can she heal? Will she be one of the lucky Borderline (BPD) people who are functional someday? I have detatched as much as a mother can from a minor. I don't worry all night when she runs. I say a prayer and move on with my plans. I don't control her friends or decisions because I can't. Trust me, just months ago I would have been messaging these idiot friends and confronting and....and... I am working on peace. I don't know that I will ever be in a zen state-not who I am. I appreciate your comfort and sharing. I will eventually be better at detachment. Each day-one at a time :) [/QUOTE]
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