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<blockquote data-quote="WiseChoices" data-source="post: 753666" data-attributes="member: 24254"><p>Thank you, Copa. That makes a lot of sense, actually. I do hate to be the cop. I am in charge of my Father's US assets , I did broker the deal ahead of time with my Dad and then had son call. It was my suggestion son get into dad's car as I knew dad wanted to sell it and son needed car. And I see the set up now .how this put me between them by carrying out the role of controller of how son is performing on the contract. Dad really wnsts nothing to do with it. He lives in Europe. He was ok with letting son drive car and I told son I would supervise to make sure contract (between me and son by the way for perfomance of contract). It's just a piece of paper where I jotted down how to treat the car and that he would get a bank loan within 2 months. Nobody signed anything .but even verbal agreement is a contract. </p><p></p><p>I do see how right you are how I set myself up to be in position of control again. How I triangulated here. How I did not need to say or do anything and son could have maybe had the Idea to buy his grandfather s car and asked grandfather on his own accord. I controlled from the get go. And put myself into the same exact position that I say I hate. Son is not even vested in this car. That's why he doesn't care to take care of it. Maybe. </p><p></p><p>My parents had a vacation home here as well along with the car and I managed the home with renting it out to tenants. I did the car and home maintenance. So I did tell son that I am in charge of grandfather '' assets and would be one to make sure the car was treated according to agreement.</p><p></p><p>Grandfather lives in Europe. So with your suggestion do I tell son I think he is lying and he needs to call his grandfather and discuss the situation? My dad really wants nothing to do with monitoring son or being involved other than son paying for insurance and buying car asap</p><p></p><p>You are right .taking son to work every day invites more power struggle and frankly more work than I care to have .</p><p></p><p>Maybe shutting up for now and just letting him buy car by end of the year is best. He knows that I know he lied. Maybe that's what irks me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WiseChoices, post: 753666, member: 24254"] Thank you, Copa. That makes a lot of sense, actually. I do hate to be the cop. I am in charge of my Father's US assets , I did broker the deal ahead of time with my Dad and then had son call. It was my suggestion son get into dad's car as I knew dad wanted to sell it and son needed car. And I see the set up now .how this put me between them by carrying out the role of controller of how son is performing on the contract. Dad really wnsts nothing to do with it. He lives in Europe. He was ok with letting son drive car and I told son I would supervise to make sure contract (between me and son by the way for perfomance of contract). It's just a piece of paper where I jotted down how to treat the car and that he would get a bank loan within 2 months. Nobody signed anything .but even verbal agreement is a contract. I do see how right you are how I set myself up to be in position of control again. How I triangulated here. How I did not need to say or do anything and son could have maybe had the Idea to buy his grandfather s car and asked grandfather on his own accord. I controlled from the get go. And put myself into the same exact position that I say I hate. Son is not even vested in this car. That's why he doesn't care to take care of it. Maybe. My parents had a vacation home here as well along with the car and I managed the home with renting it out to tenants. I did the car and home maintenance. So I did tell son that I am in charge of grandfather '' assets and would be one to make sure the car was treated according to agreement. Grandfather lives in Europe. So with your suggestion do I tell son I think he is lying and he needs to call his grandfather and discuss the situation? My dad really wants nothing to do with monitoring son or being involved other than son paying for insurance and buying car asap You are right .taking son to work every day invites more power struggle and frankly more work than I care to have . Maybe shutting up for now and just letting him buy car by end of the year is best. He knows that I know he lied. Maybe that's what irks me. [/QUOTE]
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