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<blockquote data-quote="Elsi" data-source="post: 739053" data-attributes="member: 23349"><p>Heavy hearted, I have been where you are and I feel your grief. I know that pain and worry and shame. I am so sorry you are going through this now. </p><p></p><p>For one of my sons, prison was the wake up call he needed to turn his life around. For the other, not so much. My policy has been to 1) let them know I still love them, no matter what, but 2) I will not get them out of situations they put themselves into. No bail, no lawyers, no money on the books, no phone calls and errands on their behalf. It’s hard. N was so bitter and angry with me at first and I had to refuse calls. It was so painful, but it was the right choice. When they are still in that entitlement phase, feeling like you owe them help, talking does no good. Letters let you get what you have to say out without getting derailed by their anger or desperation. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and prayers to you, and to all going through this. Stay strong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Elsi, post: 739053, member: 23349"] Heavy hearted, I have been where you are and I feel your grief. I know that pain and worry and shame. I am so sorry you are going through this now. For one of my sons, prison was the wake up call he needed to turn his life around. For the other, not so much. My policy has been to 1) let them know I still love them, no matter what, but 2) I will not get them out of situations they put themselves into. No bail, no lawyers, no money on the books, no phone calls and errands on their behalf. It’s hard. N was so bitter and angry with me at first and I had to refuse calls. It was so painful, but it was the right choice. When they are still in that entitlement phase, feeling like you owe them help, talking does no good. Letters let you get what you have to say out without getting derailed by their anger or desperation. Hugs and prayers to you, and to all going through this. Stay strong. [/QUOTE]
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