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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 746085" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Your son is NOT their son. They don't get to dictate the rules he follows. </p><p></p><p>Coed parties are actually fairly routine in many circles. You trust your son, but you still verified what was going to happen with the host's parents. You cannot run your son's life by other people's rules. </p><p></p><p>As for going to see a movie with girls, why would that ever be a problem with trustworthy kids? Your son h as EARNED your trust and has absolutely NOT earned their suspicion. If they get too pushy, tell them that they don't have a say in the matter and you will happily put some distance into your relationship if they keep up the nonsense.</p><p></p><p>I may seem a bit harsh, but sometimes you have to set a boundary and enforce it. It sounds like your parents don't understand the boundaries, so maybe you need to let them know that enough is enough. If they are saying this to you, what are they saying to him? It really HURTS to be distrusted that way when you have done all you can to earn trust. I was the "good kid" and my brother was always the one making poor decisions. </p><p></p><p>Kids who have earned trust and are openly distrusted can be pushed to the point where they live down to your expectations. You REALLY don't want that. Treat your son the way that feels right to YOU and ignore the outside interference and noise. Chances are he will continue to live up to that trust. Don't make him live down to a lack of trust.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 746085, member: 1233"] Your son is NOT their son. They don't get to dictate the rules he follows. Coed parties are actually fairly routine in many circles. You trust your son, but you still verified what was going to happen with the host's parents. You cannot run your son's life by other people's rules. As for going to see a movie with girls, why would that ever be a problem with trustworthy kids? Your son h as EARNED your trust and has absolutely NOT earned their suspicion. If they get too pushy, tell them that they don't have a say in the matter and you will happily put some distance into your relationship if they keep up the nonsense. I may seem a bit harsh, but sometimes you have to set a boundary and enforce it. It sounds like your parents don't understand the boundaries, so maybe you need to let them know that enough is enough. If they are saying this to you, what are they saying to him? It really HURTS to be distrusted that way when you have done all you can to earn trust. I was the "good kid" and my brother was always the one making poor decisions. Kids who have earned trust and are openly distrusted can be pushed to the point where they live down to your expectations. You REALLY don't want that. Treat your son the way that feels right to YOU and ignore the outside interference and noise. Chances are he will continue to live up to that trust. Don't make him live down to a lack of trust. [/QUOTE]
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