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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 721857" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Rough couple of days. Son is manipulating and bargaining and it is ripping my heart apart. I can barely get through much days. </p><p></p><p>He was texting from a friends phone last night trying to bargain and negotiat his way back home. The answer is no this isn’t working for any of us. </p><p></p><p>His bargaining includes not needing in patient rehab. Says he is off drugs and doing ok. I saw him 36 hours ago a he looks like hell. </p><p></p><p>Message from his out patient rehab counselor that he has not been in contact with her. </p><p></p><p>Message from his bail officer he had another failure to report. This is putting me into a tail spin again today. Of course she has mailed the letter here but has she pulled his bail bond?? No. Cooling his heels in jail until his next court date Nov2 might just be what he needs to sway his choice for rehab. I dispise our useless system. </p><p></p><p>I replied back to both that he does not reside here anymore. They have already been made aware of this fact. </p><p></p><p>His 18th birthday is tomorrow. I have to keep reminding myself that we are letting him face the natural consequences of his own actions. We know this is the only hope he has to get the help he needs. Someone who has been drugging for severally years can’t just stop. Gas Lifhting and manipulation. </p><p></p><p>There are glimmers of recognition from him that he needs help. But not with enough consistency to know he is ready for it. I reinforce myself with contact with mentors who have been where I am. Without that I know I would weaken in my resolve and let him back home. Thank God for the support of good people and all of you in this forum. I would be lost without it. </p><p></p><p>I am not the Cause of his addiction, I can not Cure it not can I control it. As much as I want to grab him and rush him to the bail office I am not going to. When the letter comes from the bail office it is being returned to sender. I write this as much to convince myself to take concrete actions and not weaken, as I do to inform you all. </p><p></p><p>Minute by minute, hour by hour and I know his could go on for a very long time. </p><p></p><p>I hope for acceptance to rehab and court diversion to rehab. He is in need of such help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 721857, member: 21895"] Rough couple of days. Son is manipulating and bargaining and it is ripping my heart apart. I can barely get through much days. He was texting from a friends phone last night trying to bargain and negotiat his way back home. The answer is no this isn’t working for any of us. His bargaining includes not needing in patient rehab. Says he is off drugs and doing ok. I saw him 36 hours ago a he looks like hell. Message from his out patient rehab counselor that he has not been in contact with her. Message from his bail officer he had another failure to report. This is putting me into a tail spin again today. Of course she has mailed the letter here but has she pulled his bail bond?? No. Cooling his heels in jail until his next court date Nov2 might just be what he needs to sway his choice for rehab. I dispise our useless system. I replied back to both that he does not reside here anymore. They have already been made aware of this fact. His 18th birthday is tomorrow. I have to keep reminding myself that we are letting him face the natural consequences of his own actions. We know this is the only hope he has to get the help he needs. Someone who has been drugging for severally years can’t just stop. Gas Lifhting and manipulation. There are glimmers of recognition from him that he needs help. But not with enough consistency to know he is ready for it. I reinforce myself with contact with mentors who have been where I am. Without that I know I would weaken in my resolve and let him back home. Thank God for the support of good people and all of you in this forum. I would be lost without it. I am not the Cause of his addiction, I can not Cure it not can I control it. As much as I want to grab him and rush him to the bail office I am not going to. When the letter comes from the bail office it is being returned to sender. I write this as much to convince myself to take concrete actions and not weaken, as I do to inform you all. Minute by minute, hour by hour and I know his could go on for a very long time. I hope for acceptance to rehab and court diversion to rehab. He is in need of such help. [/QUOTE]
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