I get it. You check it to make sure he is safe. When you check it your heart sinks that something magical has not happened with his life yet. I understand. I am sure most of us do. I think everyone is just trying to be supportive. I can not imagine what I would do to get info on my difficult child if I had not spoken to her in years. I might go to extremes, frankly. So, I for one, do not believe you are wrong to check it - I just think it may not be the healthiest way to live. Well, not much about having a difficult child is healthy, huh?