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<blockquote data-quote="so ready to live" data-source="post: 721912" data-attributes="member: 20054"><p>LBL---please rest and wait. Now is the time for that. As hard as it is, let this play out. You have given your son the respect of treating him as an adult. He has made adult decisions (albeit foolish in our eyes). Try not to look at that phone, if you can't cut off service, just shut down phone. Would you grieve that he missed bail and court if you knew he would be picked up as a a result and that would save him? Of course not. You have truly tried it all and that didn't work. Now-a new day, doing a new thing.</p><p></p><p>and we do feel that way...but feelings aren't facts and they can be deceptive. </p><p></p><p>But it can cost our marriage, our health, our sanity.</p><p></p><p>It is said, "Expectation is the root of all heartache". Many of us here have learned that the hard way. It's such a change in programming for me to expect less or nothing. I'm not wired that way. It's how I have always ordered my world. But now a new day. </p><p>Today (and maybe tomorrow too<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" />) I will go horseback riding. Fall is a beautiful time and for a couple hours I won't think of my son. It's a relief to forget the chaos that is us. The chaos I didn't expect and don't have the power to fix.</p><p>Do something just for you and your hubs this weekend. It won't feel right, but you need it. You'll get through this. Prayers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="so ready to live, post: 721912, member: 20054"] LBL---please rest and wait. Now is the time for that. As hard as it is, let this play out. You have given your son the respect of treating him as an adult. He has made adult decisions (albeit foolish in our eyes). Try not to look at that phone, if you can't cut off service, just shut down phone. Would you grieve that he missed bail and court if you knew he would be picked up as a a result and that would save him? Of course not. You have truly tried it all and that didn't work. Now-a new day, doing a new thing. and we do feel that way...but feelings aren't facts and they can be deceptive. But it can cost our marriage, our health, our sanity. It is said, "Expectation is the root of all heartache". Many of us here have learned that the hard way. It's such a change in programming for me to expect less or nothing. I'm not wired that way. It's how I have always ordered my world. But now a new day. Today (and maybe tomorrow too;)) I will go horseback riding. Fall is a beautiful time and for a couple hours I won't think of my son. It's a relief to forget the chaos that is us. The chaos I didn't expect and don't have the power to fix. Do something just for you and your hubs this weekend. It won't feel right, but you need it. You'll get through this. Prayers. [/QUOTE]
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