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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 714769" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have gone into detail about my horrible experience so many times I dont feel I can do it again. Your step probably had chaos and neglect in her early years, which left her unable to care about other people. It is most common in older adopted kids but happens with any kid who had nobody stable to bond with in infancy to age three. This diagnosis is not that well known and often misdiagnosed. Bipolar people are not dangerous in this way. I am guessing the doctors, like OUR doctors, missed the boat completely. Celexa doesnt help bipolar anyway... but keep an open mind that psychiatry is not an exact science and often people are misdiadnosed.</p><p></p><p>Here is what I suggest.</p><p></p><p>1. Put ATTACHMENT DISORDER in your preferred search engine. Read EVERYTHING that pops up. The fire starting is a big clue. These kids also tend to pee/poop in inappropriate places and are often cruel to animals, often only in private. Sometimes theyact like tjey love animals in front of us, then torture or kill them in private. Many act out sexually in various ways too and act out on younger kids. You have younger kids.</p><p></p><p>2. Think about whether she is safe in your house to the younger kids. It sounds like she may not be. Call CPS if you have to for out of home options like foster care and maybe residential treatment on their dime. They helped us with this. They could be your only option. Use them.</p><p></p><p>3. Never leave her alone with younger kids or in house alone. Ever. Lock younger kid"s doors at night every night so she has no access to them when you are sleeping.</p><p></p><p>Doing nothing or band-aid solutions should not be sn option. This is deep seated and dangerous...the child starts to have no conscience toward others due to early neglect or abuse. They can act like sociopaths and you have younger kids. She could molest them or harm them in other ways.</p><p></p><p>Im so sorry. We adopted a boy who behaved much like your daughter. He had to leave. He was molesting our younger kids and other things. Girls are more apt to cry fslse sbuse charges on men like your husband. You could lose all your kids while they investigate. Hub could end up in jail even if he didnt do it. Beware. Chaos surrounds these people.</p><p></p><p>I know this is so painful. Please please save yourself and younger kids. If necessary leave with younger kids and any pets until this child is somewhere else. Its too risky to let her be with the kids. Oh, yeah. Unattached kids are great liars and great actors and can be very charming to people not living in the house. Very convincing in their lies.</p><p></p><p>Take care please!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 714769, member: 1550"] I have gone into detail about my horrible experience so many times I dont feel I can do it again. Your step probably had chaos and neglect in her early years, which left her unable to care about other people. It is most common in older adopted kids but happens with any kid who had nobody stable to bond with in infancy to age three. This diagnosis is not that well known and often misdiagnosed. Bipolar people are not dangerous in this way. I am guessing the doctors, like OUR doctors, missed the boat completely. Celexa doesnt help bipolar anyway... but keep an open mind that psychiatry is not an exact science and often people are misdiadnosed. Here is what I suggest. 1. Put ATTACHMENT DISORDER in your preferred search engine. Read EVERYTHING that pops up. The fire starting is a big clue. These kids also tend to pee/poop in inappropriate places and are often cruel to animals, often only in private. Sometimes theyact like tjey love animals in front of us, then torture or kill them in private. Many act out sexually in various ways too and act out on younger kids. You have younger kids. 2. Think about whether she is safe in your house to the younger kids. It sounds like she may not be. Call CPS if you have to for out of home options like foster care and maybe residential treatment on their dime. They helped us with this. They could be your only option. Use them. 3. Never leave her alone with younger kids or in house alone. Ever. Lock younger kid"s doors at night every night so she has no access to them when you are sleeping. Doing nothing or band-aid solutions should not be sn option. This is deep seated and dangerous...the child starts to have no conscience toward others due to early neglect or abuse. They can act like sociopaths and you have younger kids. She could molest them or harm them in other ways. Im so sorry. We adopted a boy who behaved much like your daughter. He had to leave. He was molesting our younger kids and other things. Girls are more apt to cry fslse sbuse charges on men like your husband. You could lose all your kids while they investigate. Hub could end up in jail even if he didnt do it. Beware. Chaos surrounds these people. I know this is so painful. Please please save yourself and younger kids. If necessary leave with younger kids and any pets until this child is somewhere else. Its too risky to let her be with the kids. Oh, yeah. Unattached kids are great liars and great actors and can be very charming to people not living in the house. Very convincing in their lies. Take care please! [/QUOTE]
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