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<blockquote data-quote="Blindsided" data-source="post: 751779" data-attributes="member: 23811"><p>Welcome. After reading the comments thus far, there isn't much I can add. My daughter is 40, an alcoholic that lives in another state. She is on Medicaid because she hasn't worked in years (rich men have taken care of her). She is horribly abusive, mostly when she is drunk. She has a kind core, but I fear she will die from her liver failure before she can get back there. I grieve everyday, but someone on this forum said something to me that has been very helpful. When I start to go down that road I say "Sending "---" my love, so let go and let God. Then I let it go for the rest of the day on most days, not all, but that is a huge improvement. </p><p></p><p>It's difficult when we think we are setting a good example so they can achieve, but the fact is, they have to set their own good examples. Like all human beings, we could make better choices at times, too, especially when they are emotionally driven. Either way, it is their choice, not ours. Our choice would be a lot different, but it's not ours to make. The article on detachment here on the forum is helping me a lot. I have shared it with my other children, because we all have a problem knowing enabling vs helping. I have also read some great books that are listed in my signature line.</p><p></p><p>Again, welcome. My heart is with you. </p><p></p><p>In healing for all of us.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Blindsided, post: 751779, member: 23811"] Welcome. After reading the comments thus far, there isn't much I can add. My daughter is 40, an alcoholic that lives in another state. She is on Medicaid because she hasn't worked in years (rich men have taken care of her). She is horribly abusive, mostly when she is drunk. She has a kind core, but I fear she will die from her liver failure before she can get back there. I grieve everyday, but someone on this forum said something to me that has been very helpful. When I start to go down that road I say "Sending "---" my love, so let go and let God. Then I let it go for the rest of the day on most days, not all, but that is a huge improvement. It's difficult when we think we are setting a good example so they can achieve, but the fact is, they have to set their own good examples. Like all human beings, we could make better choices at times, too, especially when they are emotionally driven. Either way, it is their choice, not ours. Our choice would be a lot different, but it's not ours to make. The article on detachment here on the forum is helping me a lot. I have shared it with my other children, because we all have a problem knowing enabling vs helping. I have also read some great books that are listed in my signature line. Again, welcome. My heart is with you. In healing for all of us. [/QUOTE]
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