What I'm hearing is that he's putting all his eggs into one basket "happy thinking the relationship would work" and that is scary for me to hear as the mother of a difficult adult son.
They are fragile in the beginning and while I want my son to meet a wonderful girl (of my dreams for him lol) because I know that the right person can make a huge difference in someone's life, it is a lot to put on someone.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that they have to have a hunger for living a productive and good life they can be proud of that does not include a relationship first, because if a relationship doesn't work out then the emotional toll it takes on them can be great.
I go from feeling strong to not feeling strong so I do understand how you feel. Hopefully your husband can talk to him tonight and relay the information to you. When things were too hard for me to bear, I let his dad take over and that worked well for us and my son has no hard feelings toward me now.
