I would tell my Mother how she makes me feel and that I want her to stop butting into my business . This doesn't have to be a big confrontation. Just a statement. What she does with it is on her, but at least I would have said my peace .
You have the deadline of end of September. I would back off completely, no advice, no links, just go about your business. If she does ask you for suggestions/ input, empower her: I know you can handle it, you will make the right decision for yourself, I believe in you etc .And let her figure it all out on her own .
I can only speak for myself here. I made my children helpless by doing everything for them while growing up, and now I complain they are helpless. I have backed off completely. My son has a therapist now who told him he is strong and capable and I told DC1 I agree with that and that would take a backseat and allow him to figure things out for himself. He said "I know why you do it, Mom, because you see me only put in 50%" .
He has been applying to more jobs and wants to go to grad school. I told him he has to figure it all out for himself and he said he would .this feels so much better and I get to focus on me .
