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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 724754" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>lbl. i am only just now seeing this thread which i read through.</p><p></p><p>i think this vacation is fortuitous in many ways: </p><p></p><p>your son will be forced to make choices on his own with you out of the mix.</p><p></p><p>he will either: </p><p></p><p>1. blow it.</p><p></p><p>or</p><p></p><p>2. save himself.</p><p></p><p>the minder however good a person will not care like you. which is a good thing.</p><p></p><p>before you leave i would with your husband decide what you need to see from son and what would be intolerable. and decide to let his choices determine the outcome. be clear about the outcome before you leave.</p><p></p><p>i agree with the others. he is testing railings.</p><p></p><p>he believes the give must come from you, not him.</p><p></p><p>read some of your threads in september or thereabouts when you were trying to do the harm reduction idiocy. is that what it was called? i hear son acting the same. just without the full range of drugs.</p><p></p><p>i know you want hope. i know that it feels like this program is the only good chance. but all this wanting on your part is empowering your son to feel like he is golden, like he is omnipotent. like you will take and do anything. </p><p></p><p>the thing is--that is how we do feel. except it does not work out so good.</p><p></p><p>i like sam's idea of renting an airbnb studio. the only thing i would worry about is liability if it is in your name. </p><p></p><p>there is no reason for his abuse of you. 90 percent (guess) of newly incarcerated people have what you call drug brain. </p><p></p><p>they do not, the grand majority, abuse cops.</p><p></p><p>why? the consequences.</p><p></p><p>the only thing that will work is what he suffers. your suffering is only that. it does not help.</p><p></p><p>ps i am very sorry he is acting so badly to you. you and your husband do not deserve it. there is no excuse.</p><p></p><p>this disrespect and hostility is not normal. my son did it. he was not normal.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 724754, member: 18958"] lbl. i am only just now seeing this thread which i read through. i think this vacation is fortuitous in many ways: your son will be forced to make choices on his own with you out of the mix. he will either: 1. blow it. or 2. save himself. the minder however good a person will not care like you. which is a good thing. before you leave i would with your husband decide what you need to see from son and what would be intolerable. and decide to let his choices determine the outcome. be clear about the outcome before you leave. i agree with the others. he is testing railings. he believes the give must come from you, not him. read some of your threads in september or thereabouts when you were trying to do the harm reduction idiocy. is that what it was called? i hear son acting the same. just without the full range of drugs. i know you want hope. i know that it feels like this program is the only good chance. but all this wanting on your part is empowering your son to feel like he is golden, like he is omnipotent. like you will take and do anything. the thing is--that is how we do feel. except it does not work out so good. i like sam's idea of renting an airbnb studio. the only thing i would worry about is liability if it is in your name. there is no reason for his abuse of you. 90 percent (guess) of newly incarcerated people have what you call drug brain. they do not, the grand majority, abuse cops. why? the consequences. the only thing that will work is what he suffers. your suffering is only that. it does not help. ps i am very sorry he is acting so badly to you. you and your husband do not deserve it. there is no excuse. this disrespect and hostility is not normal. my son did it. he was not normal. [/QUOTE]
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