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<blockquote data-quote="LauraH" data-source="post: 749334" data-attributes="member: 22877"><p>I can't speak from your perspective, as I only have the one son. But there have been many many times, even as a child, when I felt little or no love for him. And many many many more times when I loved him but could not stand to be in the same room with him. Don't feel guilty. Your daughter's choices and behavior brought you to this point, not a lack of feeling on the part of you or your husband. Maybe things will improve, maybe not. It is what it is and you have to accept where you are as your current reality. Even now that my son is doing so great and we are getting along better, there is still some resentment between us lingering from the past and probably always will be. But it sounds like you and your husband are making peace with it. I'm glad you are having this alone time to work on and strengthen your relationship. </p><p></p><p>As far as favoritism, my mother loved all three of her children and never withheld that love, but she did things for one that she would never have done for the other two. That applied to all three of us. But I do have to say that my sister, the middle child, was obviously her favorite. From a teenager, my sister and my mother were more like BFFs than mother and daughter. I was always jealous of that, because in my mother's eyes I never quite measured up to my sister, no matter how hard I tried. But I learned to live with it. To repeat a phrase, it was what it was. I think favoritism among multiple children is inevitable for one reason or another. Parents can try to compensate but I don't believe any child will ever be raised or treated exactly like their siblings. I think it's just the nature of the beast. Again, nothing to feel guilty about in my opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LauraH, post: 749334, member: 22877"] I can't speak from your perspective, as I only have the one son. But there have been many many times, even as a child, when I felt little or no love for him. And many many many more times when I loved him but could not stand to be in the same room with him. Don't feel guilty. Your daughter's choices and behavior brought you to this point, not a lack of feeling on the part of you or your husband. Maybe things will improve, maybe not. It is what it is and you have to accept where you are as your current reality. Even now that my son is doing so great and we are getting along better, there is still some resentment between us lingering from the past and probably always will be. But it sounds like you and your husband are making peace with it. I'm glad you are having this alone time to work on and strengthen your relationship. As far as favoritism, my mother loved all three of her children and never withheld that love, but she did things for one that she would never have done for the other two. That applied to all three of us. But I do have to say that my sister, the middle child, was obviously her favorite. From a teenager, my sister and my mother were more like BFFs than mother and daughter. I was always jealous of that, because in my mother's eyes I never quite measured up to my sister, no matter how hard I tried. But I learned to live with it. To repeat a phrase, it was what it was. I think favoritism among multiple children is inevitable for one reason or another. Parents can try to compensate but I don't believe any child will ever be raised or treated exactly like their siblings. I think it's just the nature of the beast. Again, nothing to feel guilty about in my opinion. [/QUOTE]
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