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<blockquote data-quote="lordGoldemort" data-source="post: 732068" data-attributes="member: 23025"><p>She gets £5 a week pocket money by Direct Credit. In our neighbourhood, all the cashpoints have vanished and we both work quite far away from any bank, so having cash to give her and her sister was often difficult for us.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Her sibling got a kids' account at 13 and has been incredibly responsible with it. Since she often plays the "Unfair" Joker, we could find no rationale for not affording her the same privilege.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I guess we picked different battles. She hasn't been <em>irresponsible</em> with money. In fact, when we had a trip to the seaside at Easter, she had saved over £80. For me that's a win, and yes it has eroded our power, but there is some benefit to it too #silverlining</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Thanks for your candour. No offence taken. I've tried to describe things as they are, although it's hard to not feel frustration and anger when the person who is supposed to have your back lets you fall. She refused to go to counselling ("too expensive, haven't got the time...") at first. I went to CBT to help me with an unrelated issue and recommended it to her, but she gave it up after a few sessions claiming it made her worse. She will also not see a doctor about things after a course of antidepressants (back in 199x) had some odd side-effects. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Except her sister is way ahead of what I might have expected. Occasionally grumpy, often tired, but thoughtful, hard-working, responsible, good-natured but with enough backbone to stand up for herself, open-minded, adventurous, loving (impromptu hugs? Thanks very much!)...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lordGoldemort, post: 732068, member: 23025"] She gets £5 a week pocket money by Direct Credit. In our neighbourhood, all the cashpoints have vanished and we both work quite far away from any bank, so having cash to give her and her sister was often difficult for us. Her sibling got a kids' account at 13 and has been incredibly responsible with it. Since she often plays the "Unfair" Joker, we could find no rationale for not affording her the same privilege. I guess we picked different battles. She hasn't been [i]irresponsible[/i] with money. In fact, when we had a trip to the seaside at Easter, she had saved over £80. For me that's a win, and yes it has eroded our power, but there is some benefit to it too #silverlining Thanks for your candour. No offence taken. I've tried to describe things as they are, although it's hard to not feel frustration and anger when the person who is supposed to have your back lets you fall. She refused to go to counselling ("too expensive, haven't got the time...") at first. I went to CBT to help me with an unrelated issue and recommended it to her, but she gave it up after a few sessions claiming it made her worse. She will also not see a doctor about things after a course of antidepressants (back in 199x) had some odd side-effects. Except her sister is way ahead of what I might have expected. Occasionally grumpy, often tired, but thoughtful, hard-working, responsible, good-natured but with enough backbone to stand up for herself, open-minded, adventurous, loving (impromptu hugs? Thanks very much!)... [/QUOTE]
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