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<blockquote data-quote="louise2350" data-source="post: 757132" data-attributes="member: 24632"><p>All children are different from each other and even though raised in the same household do not all turn out the way we</p><p>hope they will be. My oldest daughter, when growing up, gave me a beautiful jewelry box with the engraving that said "The Greatest Compliment Anyone will Ever Give Me Is To Say I Remind Them Of You. I Love You". Now I could never imagine my d.d. giving me such a highly complimentary gift. My d.d. was always looking for ways to say she wasn't treated as good as my other two daughters. An example is: One day the d.d asked me if she was "planned" when I had her. I had always talked honestly to my children and told her I was surprised when I became pregnant with her, but have always been happy I've had her even through the bad times. After she heard I hadn't planned her (I hadn't "planned" my first daughter either) she went into a self-pitying mode of saying she wasn't planned therefore wasn't wanted, etc. I couldn't believe her reaction to this so said "Oh, for goodness sake - do you think after my mother had 7 kids and then got pregnant with me (Number 8) had said to my father after having 7 kids, "lets have number 8?" My daughter had no response to that remark from me. I never once thought that I wasn't wanted but I'm sure my mother must've been overwhelmed with 7 never mind having me number 8 at 43 years old. My first daughter whom I didn't "plan" either never once asked me or felt that she wasn't wanted because she wasn't "planned". This story is just an example of how my d.d. (in her thinking) was always looking for ways to accuse me of short-changing her. All kids are different and come with their own personalities. It doesn't mean you were a bad parent - it's their choices that lead them to their future - good or bad - healthy or unhealthy. Hope this helps a bit.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="louise2350, post: 757132, member: 24632"] All children are different from each other and even though raised in the same household do not all turn out the way we hope they will be. My oldest daughter, when growing up, gave me a beautiful jewelry box with the engraving that said "The Greatest Compliment Anyone will Ever Give Me Is To Say I Remind Them Of You. I Love You". Now I could never imagine my d.d. giving me such a highly complimentary gift. My d.d. was always looking for ways to say she wasn't treated as good as my other two daughters. An example is: One day the d.d asked me if she was "planned" when I had her. I had always talked honestly to my children and told her I was surprised when I became pregnant with her, but have always been happy I've had her even through the bad times. After she heard I hadn't planned her (I hadn't "planned" my first daughter either) she went into a self-pitying mode of saying she wasn't planned therefore wasn't wanted, etc. I couldn't believe her reaction to this so said "Oh, for goodness sake - do you think after my mother had 7 kids and then got pregnant with me (Number 8) had said to my father after having 7 kids, "lets have number 8?" My daughter had no response to that remark from me. I never once thought that I wasn't wanted but I'm sure my mother must've been overwhelmed with 7 never mind having me number 8 at 43 years old. My first daughter whom I didn't "plan" either never once asked me or felt that she wasn't wanted because she wasn't "planned". This story is just an example of how my d.d. (in her thinking) was always looking for ways to accuse me of short-changing her. All kids are different and come with their own personalities. It doesn't mean you were a bad parent - it's their choices that lead them to their future - good or bad - healthy or unhealthy. Hope this helps a bit. [/QUOTE]
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