RN0441
100% better than I was but not at 100% yet
I do not know anything about this as my Difficult Child struggles with SA. I'm asking those of you that have experience with this.
My friend's son is 17. Is in IEP in regular school. She has devoted her life to doing everything in her power to help him. Therapy, counseling, tutoring. You name it, she's done it.
Son has a very hard time learning. He does have some friends so is somewhat social. Husband a VP and not around much. Friend has done everything for son mostly on her own. She does not work.
Last year September son came "after her" as she put it because he was angry. They tiptoe around him so as not to get him angry. I think husband is in denial that son really has a problem. Son is angry a lot. Won't comply with medications and they really don't want him on medications. Won't go to therapy etc.
Last night friend brought up with son about the ACT test which is required since he is a junior. Long story short he started swearing at her and calling her names. She naturally told him to talk to her like that. Husband did not interfere but he should have. She told son he needed to leave (go to a friend's) whatever and husband said where can he go and that she should leave as she did last time this happened. Son pushed her down and was punching her. She was trying to get into her car and son was trying to open door. He hit window and cracked windshield. Knocked over fridge in garage. Tore her coat to the point of stuffing coming out. She called me from a Kmart parking lot. It was 20 degrees here last night.
I told her to call the police and talk to them about what she should do. She said if she presses charges against son, she will end up divorced. Her husband is a very nice and kind man and we like him very much and I do not know why he won't protect his wife against their son. Their marriage is strained to the point of almost being roommates because of her resentment toward him in dealing with son and him not stepping in to help her. I thought maybe a police officer can talk to son about this being ILLEGAL and that may scare him. Also she said the autism community "doesn't want to talk about it". I do not know what that really means. I know she is ashamed, sad and embarrassed.
I know I can't personally help her other than being her friend and listening but what do people do in situations like this? I offered last night for her to sleep at our house but she did go home and barricaded herself in her spare room. She is worried about son being off of school for 2 weeks. He is a senior in high school. I am so afraid next time he will get a knife or something. She said she is bruised and sore and her nails were bleeding from being bent backwards. What a horrible nightmare. What a horrible way to live.
My friend's son is 17. Is in IEP in regular school. She has devoted her life to doing everything in her power to help him. Therapy, counseling, tutoring. You name it, she's done it.
Son has a very hard time learning. He does have some friends so is somewhat social. Husband a VP and not around much. Friend has done everything for son mostly on her own. She does not work.
Last year September son came "after her" as she put it because he was angry. They tiptoe around him so as not to get him angry. I think husband is in denial that son really has a problem. Son is angry a lot. Won't comply with medications and they really don't want him on medications. Won't go to therapy etc.
Last night friend brought up with son about the ACT test which is required since he is a junior. Long story short he started swearing at her and calling her names. She naturally told him to talk to her like that. Husband did not interfere but he should have. She told son he needed to leave (go to a friend's) whatever and husband said where can he go and that she should leave as she did last time this happened. Son pushed her down and was punching her. She was trying to get into her car and son was trying to open door. He hit window and cracked windshield. Knocked over fridge in garage. Tore her coat to the point of stuffing coming out. She called me from a Kmart parking lot. It was 20 degrees here last night.
I told her to call the police and talk to them about what she should do. She said if she presses charges against son, she will end up divorced. Her husband is a very nice and kind man and we like him very much and I do not know why he won't protect his wife against their son. Their marriage is strained to the point of almost being roommates because of her resentment toward him in dealing with son and him not stepping in to help her. I thought maybe a police officer can talk to son about this being ILLEGAL and that may scare him. Also she said the autism community "doesn't want to talk about it". I do not know what that really means. I know she is ashamed, sad and embarrassed.
I know I can't personally help her other than being her friend and listening but what do people do in situations like this? I offered last night for her to sleep at our house but she did go home and barricaded herself in her spare room. She is worried about son being off of school for 2 weeks. He is a senior in high school. I am so afraid next time he will get a knife or something. She said she is bruised and sore and her nails were bleeding from being bent backwards. What a horrible nightmare. What a horrible way to live.